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My 19 month old daughter Chloe is starting to have tantrums when she don't get her own way or don't get snacks like cookies and cheezies...I don't give in becasue my public health nurse told me not to or that would make things worse...so I was wondering how you all cope/deal with the temper tantrums???

We have a time out mat they have to sit on...we make them sit for 2 minutes (a minute for each year they are old). Seems to work, and if they get off, we put them back on, until they complete a full 2 minutes...seems to really be working for us. Actually saw this tactic on a reality show Nanny 911 or something like that.

Just be aware that the first few times you do it, the tantrums may get worse, as she tries harder to get your attention. But eventually it will pay off. The key is being consistent - and being calm no matter how out of control she is, which is the hardest thing in the world sometimes to be! I've been there with 3, mine are 14, 8, and one right now that's 3 so we're in the middle of it again! LOL

I'm going through the same thing with my daughter who is almost 18 months. Good luck!

Hello
I have had the same problem, but have tried a few different things with no luck.

I have three teens now. They did alot of things like biting pulling hair throwing themselves down and ALOT more.. Ignor it the more you pay attention and respond the more they will do. I use to go to another room and ignor. My one use to follow me from room to room to do it till they got so tired they would fall asleep doing it and they all stopped fairly quickly after they seen there was no responce to it.It will pass in time just get a good set of ear plugs and sit back. Just watch that they dont really get hurt though just watch from the corner of your eye ...then when mine where done i waited a few minutes and then they would respond better. Good Luck i hope this helped a little.

Ahh, tantrums. Do NOT give in. You = Parent. Kid = kid. It's normal but do not give the tantrum the attention and do not give your kid the attention by giving in. Kids learn VERY quickly what works and what doesn't. Do not reward negative behavior (by giving in). It is difficul to deal with now but it will be even more difficult to break this trend the more you give in and it becomes habit.

Tantrums are normal. Make sure there is nothing around for her to hurt herself on and walk away.

My son used to have tantrums in the grocery store. I would put him in the cart wheel it to the front door, go outside and let him have at 'er. Soon all I'd have to say is, do you want to go outside and it would stop.

If she follows you around screaming put her in her room or the bathroom and shut the door. You may have to hold it closed but soon she'll get the message, if I start I end up in the bathroom I'm not getting what I want try something new.

Get the book. How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk. Great book.

Just remember -- You are doing it right, your a good parent and that its just a phase, you will get through it.