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I have had several friends tell me this and I also have read it quite a bit. Actually, it is usually presented to me as "I'm going to let you in on a little secret....Motherhood is more boring than people realize." No Kidding!! Do people really think this is some sort of secret?!?!? I have known since I was 10 years old that all of it looked dreadfully boring.
Anyone else hear this comment? If so, aren't you amazed that people think they are telling you something you don't already know?

I don't think I've ever been told that...

But I love how most of the time, when people complain about parenting, they have to add a disclaimer. You know, like "I'm so miserable, I get no sleep and my house is a mess and I never get to do anything for ME and if I had it to do over again, I wouldn't be a parent......







....but I wouldn't give up little Suzie for anything!!"

Of course they all have to throw in the disclaimer ... by the time the first part has come out of their mouth they are already feeling guilty for saying it. But us CF'ers know it's true -- parenting is boring and stressful as hell!

I would love to be able to give all those parents a "truth serum" and ask them -- would they REALLY do it all over again if they had the choice, knowing what they know now?

I think we'd be surprised at the results - or maybe we wouldn't.

I also get the, "If I had the decision to do over again, I would have never had kids" line a lot from my friends. And they all say how guilty they feel and I'm sworn to secrecy. I suspect 80% of parents would not do parenthood over again if they had the chance. It looks terribly boring to me as well.

This topic drew my attention---I couldn't believe boring was an adjective any mother would EVER use to describe motherhood. There are so many feelings that I have had over the last 30 years but I was never bored. I am now "childfree". My husband and I can enjoy all our freedoms and he is certainly looking forward to his retirement.

There have been many emotions, stress, happiness, choices and laughter (and more sleep than I ever had in college!) and I would certainly go through all the stuff necessary to be a parent again. Yes, pets are the icing on the delicious cake of life!!! Children can be like so many different kinds of desserts, some you like and some you don't. Actually, so can pets. <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Not everyone likes desserts, by the way, my husband likes salty foods...I like the sweets.. but that is what makes the world go 'round...makes life interesting...makes us all different. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Trish

From what I see boring wouldnt be the correct word. More Like "Hectic" maybe. My friends who are mother's are always on the go with the kids and the kids are always giving them the run-around.

I think honestly kid's arnt as bad as a lot of us make them out to be, but they arnt as good as some parents make them out to be. I would say it has it's up's and downs.

I just really respect my friends and most of them are parents. And the ones that had kids on purpose seem to be really happy with their decision. And even though I am CF I am not going to try to tell myself all parents would take back having kids. I think most of then wouldnt.

But that still doesnt change the fact that I like being CF. And that I dont want kids even if there is some good about it. it's just not for me.

Motherhood isn't boring...IT'S CRAZY. I have seen my sister and other people go through pure hell trying to raise their kids and keep them under control. Now, why would I subject myself to that kind of madness/sadness? Whewww.....I am so glad I made the choice not to have even one!! Thank you, Essure! <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I think the reason some of my friends have said this to me is because they suffered from a sense of self-loss after they had kids. Their lives became all kids 24/7 and I think it was a little boring/depressing for them.

On a related note, I recently read where Beyonce (in Cosmo magazine) said that she wanted to wait to have children because having kids isn't really as glamorous as it looks! This is what I mean...who the hell would ever think motherhood looks glamorous!??!?!?!?!??

I gather from your post that you must have adult children (or step-children)and now are an empty-nester. Please note - you can in no way call yourself "childfree", ever. If you were pregnant and had a child - even if '30 years' ago - you are a parent, NOT a childfree person! It's wonderful if you support childfree people - especially if your children are among them - but you are not one, you are an empty-nester.

As a single parent i think motherhood is boring as well, i mean why does society place this one women that we have to get married, have babies and then our lives will be fullfilled? i think it is crazy to say the least. once you become a mother your life is no longer about you, you lose friendships, you dont get invited to certian places because it may not be kid friendly and motherhood also puts a damper on anyones social life be it dating or otherwise. and if you do have friends who are childless, the conversations tend to stem around our children and these people cant relate and yes it helps to build friendships with people who do have children but these people are in the same boat as us, and it can get depressing especially when the topics get around to who couldnt find a babysitter the most, ect