BellaOnline Forums Relationships Marriage Any advice would be nice

Hello.New here, but wanted to know...my husband of 13 years, who has never raised a hand to me....slapped me in the face during an arguement. Yes we have had arguements before...but this time he open handed slapped me in my face. He claims he is remorseful and will never do it again... but I feel like dirt. He is acting like it was no big deal, we have a wonderful family and lets not ruin it over that. Can this be put behind me? What should I do? [color:"purple"] [/color]

Is your husband under any kind of stress right now? Do you feel safe in his presence normally?

I would maybe suggest some counseling for both of you. Obviously something is going on with him and in my opinion, violence is never excusable. And, it does tend to escalate, so I'd want to iron out those underlying issues immediately.

Actually, I'd probably have a hard time just living with him afterwards because I have a childhood history of family violence and it's just not something I can have in my life at all.

LEAVE HIM NOW!
Atleast untill you both get some councelling. Love does not hurt, keep that in mind. And violence like that (especially if he thinks it's "no big deal") will just get worse.

Insist that you both go for counseling. One slap is too many.If you allow it, and you are the one who will be victimized, then there will be worse physical violence.

If he is acting like it is no big deal, there is a major problem.

Seek help now!!