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Anyone here who would NEVER get pregnant by choice but might consider keeping it if you had an "Oops?"

Malice:

Just because I am a mother, does not mean that I am against abortion, as I have had one, if you were to read my post. I was stating that it should be your choice and as long as you are happy with your decision, that is all that matters. I am a woman who has had many experiences prior to being a mother, and just because I am a mom, does not mean that I only need to reply in the parenting forums.

"Why are there so many MOMS posting, I really don't care about your opinion on abortion, I was asking what CF women would do if they ever did get pregnant by accident, so this is not directed twards you, go to the parenting forums."

Malice-

I was reading this thread yesterday and was curious about why moms are posting also...Whatever. I think the issue you are talking about is what if one of us die hard CFs were to become pregnant- what would we do? To answer your question...

I think I have always known deep down that I did not want children and I have faced this issue once in my life. When my husband and were dating I became pregnant at the young age of 22. I freaked out. I was young, a teacher, with little income or resources to support a child and I knew I probably didn't want a child either. I scheduled the abortion and went to my appointment. When I arrived I also explained that I had been bleeding a lot lately. Turns out I had miscarried and did not have to go through with the procedure. Had the miscarriage not happened I would have gone through with the procedure without a second thought. Why would I want to make a child tolerate me as a mother if I know I don't want that in my life? Hope this helps...

Quote "I was reading this thread yesterday and was curious about why moms are posting also...Whatever. I think the issue you are talking about is what if one of us die hard CFs were to become pregnant- what would we do?"

Exactly, Antikid! We come to this board to address our questions to other CF people.

like I said on another thread on this forum...

the big deal is that this is a forum for non-parents. why do they even want to be here? if it was just a forum for whoever, then whoever can post. But forums are set up for specific groups about specific subjects. Have you seen the "Ask Jeeves" commercial on tv about the people who ask inappropriate questions? I like the one where the girl goes up to a dog breeder at a dog show and asks for movie times and gets squirted in the face and told to sit! well that is what parents are like on a non-parents message board. Irrelevant, bordering on troll-ish.

I could never have an abortion for moral reasons, so I'd give the baby up for adoption. However, I also know I'd hate being pregnant...

(of course, I don't have to worry about it; the upside of having had my partner dump me is that now I never again have to worry about pregnancy or trying to get a tubal)

If I were single I'd probably get an abortion. Now that I'm married, while neither DH nor I want kids, if I did get pregnant I know we'd keep it. DH has made it clear from the beginning that any child he helped create, he would raise. There are just no other options for him. So yes, we would keep the child. I just hope that I would be able to adjust and not be the most horrible mother ever.

As far as getting tubals, I also have heard over and over again how doctors will fight you on this if you're young and have no children. This was actually discussed on another board I visit and I just think it's so sad that you have to have one child to prove to them that you don't want children before being able to get your tubes tied. It's really ridiculous.

"This country is in for trouble - women especially - if Roe vs. Wade is overturned. I am sick of the religious zealots in this country trying to force their views onto everyone else. If you are against abortion THEN DON'T HAVE ONE!"

ABSOLUTELY!! I agree 100%

Abort in a heart beat.

I probably qualify here. We don't want kids, but honestly I would have to think long and hard to abort our child. Not for religious regions (I'm agnostic), but because it was OURS and I do think we would have great kids.

On the other hand, I think it would ruin our lives as we know it. And I'd probably be a very, very, bitter mother. I'm forgetful about taking those damn pills too ... maybe we should really talk about him getting the snip snip!!!

It surprises me how many people our age (30's) have kids because, in fact, they had an OOPS!