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Ok I have this dream in several different "forms" every since thae day I brought my Baby home from the hospital. He is now 7.
I moslty dream he is dramatically hit by a car. The night I brought him home I dreamed I sat his car seat with him in it on top of the car and the car took off and he slid off of it and whoever was driving ran over him. Each dream (and Ive had several) I grieve over him like it was soo real I wake up and cry all day knowing it wasnt real but it feels soo real. It hurts to even think of it.
What's really scary & wierd is that about two years ago a man opened a store in our neighborhood and when he first saw my son he started to tear up and he said he looks just like his little brother. Later I found out his little brother died by getting ran over by a vehicle at age 8 right in front of him....

Hi, IGive and welcome to Bella!

I'd have to say that you love your son so much and are afraid of losing him that this fear manifests in your nightmare. The story from the man who lost his son at the same age has made this even more real for you.

Does your son have any physical condition that worries you? Has he been very sick or has he been injured in the past? Our fears and worries often come up through our dreams.

While dreams can sometimes be premonitions, this is actually quite rare.

Do you keep a dream journal? Recurring dreams tend to pop up when we are going through similar situations in waking life, for instance, when we are under stress. By keeping a journal, you may be able to connect when the dream comes up for you to what's happening in waking life.

Oh thank you for your insight...My husband also said that it was my fear of something happening to him that makes me dream this over and over. He is a very healthy active boy and very popular in school. I guess Im just a worry wort...by the way what does it mean when you dream you are flying?????
I dream that ALL the time, not that Im complaining.
Thanks again so much
Paige

You're husband's a wise man! When we dwell on negative things, we can draw them to ourselves because our subconscious minds think that this is what we want to happen. When you have the dream or these thoughts, re-framing them into something positive can help. For instance, remind yourself that your son is healthy, smart and a good kid to counter the fearful thoughts.

I also recognize you from some other posts. You are under a GREAT amount of stress right now. Your son may be turning into your "lifline". Because of your very real fears coming true of losing in othter areas of your life, you are naturally worried that you are going to lose this precious child as well.

I'm assuming this is your only child. My aunt & uncle went thru a similar circumstance, not exactly the same, but because they couldn't have more children. She was terrified of anything bad happening to my cousin, and became almost neurotic over it (and almost drove my cousin crazy too. <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />)

Just try to separate you anxietys as much as possible (I realize its hard) and look to your little boy as not someone to panic over, but someone to cuddle and be a well of peace and innocence during these troubling times.

Michelle,
You are such a smart advisor I am so glad that I found this site. I do worry to death of loosing my son its my greatest fear of all time. Also, I fear not having anything to leave for him after I am gone and I guess that adds stress on my marriage also. It seems as I get older the fear grows. I am so very thankful for my blessings though dont get me wrong. I lost a baby before he was born and maybe that has something to do with it also even though it was a miscarriage I think of the baby often and think about how old he/she would be and what he/she would look like...I wonder if he/she is an angel in heaven watching over us.
Your post has already de-stressed me, Im gonna cuddle my baby like crazy when he gets home from school. I can focus now on work...Thank You dear Michelle!

<img src="/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> Oh, my goodness. I'm so sorry {{{hugs}}}. Your loss is very likely contributing to these dreams. Have you allowed yourself to process your grief? I know that it's hard. My husband passed on in June and I wasn't working full time, so I had plenty of time available for grieving. I just let it go for about three months. I'm still grieving and expect more bad days, but I'm finally able to start moving forward. If I'd been working full time, I doubt that I could have done that.

If you continue to have anxiety over a long period of time, please consider seeking professional help. Medication may be helpful during the healing process.

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