BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids The stereotypes attached to the childfree

Hey Opillies,

I wanted to express empathy for the following..

"I am not my mother's favorite daughter and I know it's because of the CF thing. It pisses me off all the time how much she favors my sister whose life is so messed up because of her inability to make sound decisions, but she has children so she is the "blessed" one."

My MIL constantly talks about how perfect my BIL and his family is because they have a child and live a "christian" lifestyle. I am not used to being second best and it really irks me. I wonder if she even realizes that it is hurtful for her to say things like that in front of my hubby and myself. They aren't screwed up or anything. They are good parents but it just sucks to hear how great they are all the time. I know how you feel and I just wanted to say you are not alone in that arena.

Kate

The most commone one is of course, selfishness. I don't think the decision to have a child is about becoming less selfish at all since I know people who are parents that are VERY self focused. When many people choose to become parents, they do for a variety of reasons- never underestimate peer and familial pressure(gotta have that grandson kiddo!) If they have them and regret it, it may be that they hold a bit of a grudge towards people have not had children. It is often easier for many people to project blame and judgement on a group of people who make a lifestyle choice they don't agree with than to open themselves to a fearless and honest self examination of their own choices.

"those people are idiots. personally I think idiots should be banned from reproducing. but then the human race might die out."

Amen sister! Preach on!! LOL <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Of course, I seriously doubt that the human race is in any danger of dying off....even if all the idiots stopped reproducing.

Unless a major war breaks out.