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#209336 09/07/05 12:03 PM
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I havent been around much because I have had to turn my attention to the schools again. below is a letter that I just sent to the NAA asking for help. If you know of any orgs that can help us please pass it on. This wasnt easy for me to do , Im not looking for a hand out just some help.

Hello ,

I know that right now the focus is the survivors of Katrina and effort that our
family is supporting also however we need help too. I write to you today as a mother
at her wits end , we have three ASD kids and a fourth who is currently under
evaluation. Our school district illegally took away our sons IEP the DOE found them in
non compliance with IDEA . Just prior to that our son collapsed from not having the
proper services in school , he stopped eating for seven weeks , he went from 130 lbs
to 106lbs , he was placed in a diaper and he was admitted into the hospital , thats
when he was found to have ASD. At the same meeting where our son lost his IEP the
districts doctor lied and said our doctors had retracted our sons diagnosis , this
made it so our son couldn't even have a 504 . We proved within 48 hours that our sons
diagnosis stood with letters from our doctors. It took over three months to get him a
504 , during this time a classmate of my son was killed on a school ski trip, this
child was a disabled child who was left unattended he skied into a snow machine and
was killed. This doctor is currently under investigation by the secretary of states
office. Our daughter who is a safety issue has broken her arm at school and her adult
front tooth , she was refused safety measures for over two years, she was termed a bad
child and made to sign a form saying she wouldn't do the behavior again , the behavior
in question was a disability related behavior.

My husband and I know the laws we have followed IDEA to the letter , we have
documented everything , we have over 2000 pages plus audio tapes. We have been to our
governor, our senator and everyone in between , they all say they will help and then
we never hear from them again. We have filed complaints and won however its an empty
victory. All the district had to do for illegally taking our sons IEP away was paid
for training over the summer. Meanwhile our sons rights were taken from him. He now
has a 504 but they are even violating that in multiple areas. We have fought this
fight for over three years to the point that we are grinding ourselves into the
ground. We had to stop working to keep up with the mountain of paperwork , meetings
research, doctors , therapies etc that this has brought into our lives. Currently we
are living on the kids SSIDC I resisted applying for 10 years until our sons collapse.
We feel as if we are fighting for their very lives.

We are writing to you to ask for help , Maybe you could help us to get out of here,
this place , this district, maybe you could put out a call for help for us, we need
someone willing to rent to us at a decent price who will work with us on first and
security. We have fought the good fight but now its destroying our family. There is no
joy in our lives everything is about laws , violations and the horrible effect the
violations have on the children. Please help us.


Thank you for reading this


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Best Regards,
Dana DeMerchant

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#209337 09/07/05 12:43 PM
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Hey Dana sounds like a nightmare situation. I forget now what city and state do you reside in? Do you have any free legal resources there, any advocacy groups?

Are you a member of the Reed Martin yahoo group, do you read the Wrightslaw site? Here are some resources where you can share your letter and plight and someone who has legal expertise or experiences in these areas or a similar issue at one time might be able to point you in the right direction.

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#209338 09/07/05 02:25 PM
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Everybody thought I was teasing over in the other forum;
but I wrote in to Dr. Phil!

I don't know if it will do any good, but I listed both Dana's and the new Mom's (motherinterupted) problems, and sent links to our forums so they could see what's going on.

Since I didn't have any personal info on anybody I didn't send that (I wouldnt have anyway) but this is me asking you to either list you e-mail address on here, or to send it to me or Bonnie so that in case the show does want to get in contact with either of you, they will have a way to do so.

i hope I didn't step on any toes or offend anybody, but National TV has a way of getting stuff done that us lowly little moms can't. <img src="/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />


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#209339 09/07/05 06:12 PM
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LOL- I already emailed Oprah & Dr. Phil, a couple of months ago....my probs are small compared to the family w/ the 4 kids....

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#209341 09/07/05 09:51 PM
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I'm hoping that this time will be different. When you wrote in you were one woman. When I wrote in I referenced this forum and the "Welcome to the Austism Forum". I also mentioned both you and Dana, and told him about this entire "network" Bonnie has going here of support and feedback.

Maybe the numbers will make a difference this time. We can cross our fingers and hope, (and pray).


Michelle Taylor
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#209342 09/08/05 04:29 PM
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I think we should B*tch & yell, then our kids will get help...that is how ARC started, a bunch of parents opened their mouths...

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Dana - Did you get a response from NAA in regard to your letter? Any progress?


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