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I hate to say it, but I'm blissfully happy in my marriage. My husband and I have been married for one year. Everyone tries to tell me that this great feeling will change, but so far it hasn't diminished one bit. I love him so much. He is a good man with good intentions for our family and our future. He is sweet and loving, an attentive lover and friend. I hear a lot of complaints out there about marriage and the bad things going on. I'd like to know, does anyone have anything GOOD to say about their spouses? If anyone is as happy as I am, let me know! I feel so out of the ordinary that my marriage is a happy one!

I think a lot of people are essentially happy in their relationship...it's just that there ARE blips from time to time, and that's what you hear about. How many people need to ask for advice because they're just too happy?

My daughter came back from visiting her dad and said "Mom, you and David don't EVER fight."

I had no idea where that came from, and i told her that we did argue from time to time, but we tried to do it calmly, and we tried not to do it in front of them. And when we did argue we worked very hard not to yell at each other or hurt each other, because we loved each other very much.

She goes, "Well, dad and *****(just in case) fight ALL THE TIME, and they always yell. i never hear you yell. i want to be like you and David."

Y'all that made me float. My 2nd marriage is 180 degrees from my 1st. And even my kids notice it, I never realized that before! We are still happy, and I will always want to be with this man. It doesn't mean I don't want to choke him sometimes, but love is not always an emotions, a lot of times it is a choice. When I am pre-menstrual w/ a migraine, i've had the kids all day he comes home from work in a bad mood because the nimrod that was on-call FORGOT to turn the phone on again, and we get into it over some little nothing because we are both stressed - love is definitely a choice - but it is SO worth it, and my daughter proved it to me. Because now she knows she can be in a marriage that has fights like her dad's or like mine.

My husband and I have our moments that we fuss and disagree. But most of the time, I look at other couples and think how sad they are. Most people don't find the love that we have for each other. You can tell when a couple is happy. People know we argue, but they also know that we are together no matter what. At the end of the day, there is no place we would rather be than together. I just wish everyone could find that kind of love.

No need to "hate to say it." Just because some other people like to try to douse you with cold water, it doesn't mean that you're not entitled to how you feel.

I feel blessed to have a great husband as well. He's a genuinely good person, a decent person, and a great father. I know that no matter how difficult things are, he'll be there, applying his canoodle to the problems. He loves me and I love him.

Another blessing is that we no longer have to act like we're "in love" all the time. In the beginning, there's this fear that if you don't constantly stroke and praise the other person that they will feel less loved. I think that leads to distrust in time. No one feels lovable all the time, and it does a body good to sometimes have it pointed out (in a loving way of course). For years he didn't tell me when he was ticked off, he'd just go quiet. That left me wondering what was going on because I really wouldn't get what it was that he didn't like. Now, I think it's much healthier that he doesn't let these things pass. I may suffer the sting of his wit (he still doesn't like to "give out" to me, no yelling, screaming, or broken crockery in our house), but it's only momentary. He's fair enough that he doesn't take me down when he passes a comment. And I don't do it to him. I can get impatient and when I am, I tell him. It's virtually impossible for people to live together and raise a family together and _never_ lose their patience. In fact, I think the honesty that comes with time together strengthens the love.

We're extraordinarily lucky to have such great husbands. I know, I hear about how rotten people are to each other. I used to hear the same thing when my son was little; people would say, "Oh, enjoy it now. Just wait until he's a teenager..." I'd like to meet them now. He's a teenager, been one for a while, and we still laugh together, have fun, make jokes, and love our time together.

Different strokes...

I am Blissfully married as well, it coming up on our 2nd anniversary and I am still certain I picked "the right guy" yes we fight, and sometimes we fight in a Big way (no physical abuse) but we can sure scream at eachother. But that hasnt made my marriage any less 'good" I am very happy and so is my husband. He is a great person and I am proud to call him my husband.

I am so glad I am married to my husband. He is my pal, the best, who believes in marriage. I don't know what I did to deserve such a wonderful person committed to me with love, respect, humor, and understanding. He turns my world into blissfully happy.

We will be married 3 years in next April 06, known each other 6 years.

We were faced with my father passing away three months after we married. Two years later, this April, my mother has been dealing with serious illness. Now she is in her final weeks. He has always been there for me when I needed to someone to break down with. He patiently listens to my tyrants of hurt and comforts me with his calm ways. Makes me smile when skies are gray.

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You won't often find the happily married individuals making posts other than to respond to someone else. Most post when they have a problem and want feedback or have an issue they want to discuss.

People follow this trend in conversation as well. I find that people will spend more time discussing negative things rather than positive ones.

It's good that you are happy. You likely will experience bumps in the road at some point but you have a chance at an overall good marriage.

I have been married for fifteen years. We beat numerous so called odds and consider ourselves happily wed. We have had some rough times and work through them.

hey there,

I've been married almost 11 years, and am truly happy. Everyday I look forward to seeing my husband. He is my best friend. Happy marriages do exist.
jeanne