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Hi everyone, I'm new here. Great site! Was wondering if someone could help me interpret this dream. It keeps coming back to me and I'm losing sleep for it. I guess because of the intensity of the situation. I keep dreaming about a man I used to be with. Turned out to be married and I was very heart broken over the whole thing. He passed away a few years ago. The dream has him in it and talking to me. It seems as if he's telling me things that he wanted to tell me after we broke up. As I said, it's a very intense dream. I think understand the content of the dream. I wonder why it keeps coming back. Could somebody maybe give me their opinion. I would appreciate any thoughts. Barbara <img src="/images/graemlins/viking.gif" alt="" />
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Hi everyone, I'm new here. Great site! Was wondering if someone could help me interpret this dream. It keeps coming back to me and I'm losing sleep for it. I guess because of the intensity of the situation. I keep dreaming about a man I used to be with. Turned out to be married and I was very heart broken over the whole thing. He passed away a few years ago. The dream has him in it and talking to me. It seems as if he's telling me things that he wanted to tell me after we broke up. As I said, it's a very intense dream. I think understand the content of the dream. I wonder why it keeps coming back. Could somebody maybe give me their opinion. I would appreciate any thoughts. Barbara <img src="/images/graemlins/viking.gif" alt="" /> Hi Barbara, and welcome to Bella! Sounds like he is visiting you from the other side. He must care about you enough to want you to have peace and healing in this life. I have found this book extremely helpful: Bereavement Dreaming You may also want to listen to some of Sylvia Browne's programs on Hay House Radio. The link is in the sticky thread at the top of this forum. If you don't feel that these are visits, look at what he represents to you in combination with the other symbols to determine a meaning. It will keep coming back until you've made peace with the issues he's bringing up/to you.
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Sounds like he is visiting you from the other side. He must care about you enough to want you to have peace and healing in this life.
I'm with Parthena on this one. Maybe by acknowledging the information he's trying to tell you & thanking him for making the effort the dreams will become more comfortable. If you can't dream lucidly enough to say these things in the sleep state you could say them out loud when you wake from the dream.
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My turn...I've been putting this off. I actually DID try to look this one up in the search to see if it might have been covered before, no joy. I'm actually coming at this from more of a psychological standpoint, but I just haven't gotten anywhere. Maybe some fresh viewpoints will help. This is an old dream, I've been having since I was in college (15 yrs). In almost all of my dreams I have terrific control; I can direct, completely change, and lacking those - wake myself if needed. This dream has me under control. I cannot change it, I cannot escape it, and I only wake up when the terror is too much that i'm soaked w/ sweat and gasping for breath. Sometimes my husband even wakes me because I'm screaming in my sleep (that's on nights when I take medicine for insomnia) Over the entire dream is a crushing feeling of terror, heart pounding, being chased, but never seeing who. Usually I'm in some twisted version of a building that's very dear to me; either my house I grew up in, my church, my sorority dormitory. It's recognizable as the same building but there are always secret passages and hidey holes. The passages are dirty, sometimes dusty, sometimes wet. I can't stop, I can hide for a minute, then have to keep running. I'm not exactly sure what is going to happen to me if I'm caught (part of my brain says rape, part says worse). It seems like i'm in this dream all night, and I can't remember any other dreams if I have this one. It takes hours to recover from it. It's gotten worse with the depression. Any ideas? <img src="/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
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My turn...I've been putting this off. I actually DID try to look this one up in the search to see if it might have been covered before, no joy. I'm actually coming at this from more of a psychological standpoint, but I just haven't gotten anywhere. Maybe some fresh viewpoints will help. This is an old dream, I've been having since I was in college (15 yrs). In almost all of my dreams I have terrific control; I can direct, completely change, and lacking those - wake myself if needed. This dream has me under control. I cannot change it, I cannot escape it, and I only wake up when the terror is too much that i'm soaked w/ sweat and gasping for breath. Sometimes my husband even wakes me because I'm screaming in my sleep (that's on nights when I take medicine for insomnia) Over the entire dream is a crushing feeling of terror, heart pounding, being chased, but never seeing who. Usually I'm in some twisted version of a building that's very dear to me; either my house I grew up in, my church, my sorority dormitory. It's recognizable as the same building but there are always secret passages and hidey holes. The passages are dirty, sometimes dusty, sometimes wet. I can't stop, I can hide for a minute, then have to keep running. I'm not exactly sure what is going to happen to me if I'm caught (part of my brain says rape, part says worse). It seems like i'm in this dream all night, and I can't remember any other dreams if I have this one. It takes hours to recover from it. It's gotten worse with the depression. Any ideas? <img src="/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> Hi musicalmom <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> First, since this is an almost lifelong recurring dream, can you connect specific stressful times or events when you had the dream? Perhaps an anniversary date of an event such as a birthday, date of death, an accident, etc. Our search works best if you only put one word in. This recent featured article may help: Dream Symbols - Chase
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Hi, thanks. I read that article and the one on mazes & labrynthes. My automatic first thought is that it has something to do with the date-rape I experienced in college, but it always seems like whatever is going to happen in the dream is worse than that. (As far as rapes go, mine was fairly nonviolent, just a case of I said "no" and he wouldn't stop.). The fear is overwhelming, the lack of control is almost as bad as the dream itself, I have excellent control in my dreams, unless i'm taking ambien. I have noticed this dream comes more often when my depression turns toward my bleaker periods, or when my stress level peaks, but sometimes it hits me out of the blue. I wish i could fully describe the dream, it just doesn't seem to come out with the same intensity here as in my head; its so frustrating! <img src="/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
Michelle Taylor
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Musicalmom I am going to pray that you do not get this dream again. It bothered me just reading about it. ( I think because T-rex and Godzilla have chased me in dreams I relate). One night I had a dream I was not real thrilled with, I got up and took a black tourmaline and rutilated quartz from my desk (Lauren Ravenstar has recommended certain stones for certain situations) and hopped back in bed with them-hoping they would keep the dream at bay. The dream did not come back, and I woke up the next morning with the black tourmaline under my back (?) with an impression of its shape <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> in my back! I will sleep on one every night if it will keep the nightmares away!
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I think that's why it took me so long to ask for help on it. I don't take it lightly, and I feel like i'm burdening others by asking for help, like it's "bad mojo" to share it. <img src="/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> I hope not.
I've never been much of one for crystals, other than to admire their beauty. So I'm not sure they'd do me much good.
Michelle Taylor
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I think that's why it took me so long to ask for help on it. I don't take it lightly, and I feel like i'm burdening others by asking for help, like it's "bad mojo" to share it. <img src="/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> I hope not.
I've never been much of one for crystals, other than to admire their beauty. So I'm not sure they'd do me much good. While I encourage everyone to develop their skills, part of that process is to ask for insight from others. It's not bad mojo at all. I think that the feelings of powerlessness the rape and other traumas you may have experienced are manifesting in your dreams when something is going on in waking life that is making you feel that way. Your dreams are a signal to deal with the situation. Do you need to become more assertive? Are you in a dead-end job or relationship where you feel controlled? Are you losing your self or your power to someone else? Is there an addiction or behavior that is controlling you? What do you need to do to rid yourself of those feelings? I don't resonate much with crystals either but I've always been drawn to rocks. I've found that you don't necessarily have to 'believe' in crystals for them to help..
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I don't resonate much with crystals either but I've always been drawn to rocks. I've found that you don't necessarily have to 'believe' in crystals for them to help.. Hi Musicalmom, the great news is Parthena is right. The crystals get on with their job whether you believe in them or not. Another great crystal for getting to sleep is lepidolite, best in the mica sheet form called a 'lepidolite book'. I've had insomniacs get their best night sleep for a very long time with that one under the pillow. If you are getting bad dreams a lot I've found some relief for clients in closing their chakras at night & reopening them in the morning. Firefly, you might want to try this too. Imagine each chakra as a flower, starting at the base and see the petals fold over before bedtime. I'll put up an article on this soon. Meanwhile I have got some basic chakra info here Basic Seven Chakra Information
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