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Hello, I am new to this site...I miscarried August 9th...The baby was 10 weeks...I have 2 other healthy children and no other problem pregnancies...WHAT A SHOCK...I am so sad...its hard to grieve when your caring for other children full time....but they keep me strong and going forward...I feel even more thankful now for my two children than I thought I ever could. We are burying the baby on Saturday and having a service at the gravesite. I hope I can get through it...I am so glad I found this site...I never thought I would need it...but boy is it nice to know I am not alone. Thanks for listening.
A stay at home mom is WI...Rebecca [color:"orange"] [/color]

Dear Reba

I know your pain. I lost my baby girl, Catherine Lucille Reardanz this Sunday ( Aug 21). She was 7.8 ounces, and 9 inches long. I'd been waiting a long time for her. She was only 18 weeks old. I almost lost her at 10 weeks but she held on long enough for me to hold her in my hands. She was my first born.

Reba I know the shock you feel. I didn't know I would leave the hospital without her. Yet, I hope by being here online sharing with others, we can all begin to heal.

I am so sorry about your baby...The only solace I reveived was a beautiful ultrasound picture at 7.5 weeks and a strong heartbeat on the monitor...I believe that it was Gods gracious gift that I was able to see my baby alive that one time, because the Doctors believe the baby died shortly after that. Everyday is a new challenge to get up in the morning and go on. Sometimes I feel so empty inside...Thanks for sharing, Rebecca

I too lost my baby Eve. I was 17 weeks, but they estimated that she died at about 13 weeks. I had gone into have some other things checked out and got to see her on ultrasound fow a few seconds. She was super active. It was soon after that that she died. When at 17 weeks I found out she had died I was totally shocked. I had not had any symptoms that there was a problem, at all. I had 3 healthy pregnancies before this happened. Still awaiting results to know why. Such a hard thing. I have a new found compation for anyones loss. It is amazing how when it happens to you you becoem aware of how common it actually is. We chose to have a graveside service and bury her little body too.

I recently lost my baby around 17 weeks, found out at my 18 week visit...I couldn't find the heartbeat on my home fetal monitor. The baby's heartbeat stopped on it's own. It was a complete shock, since I had been feeling great and no symptoms that would lead me to believe something was wrong with the baby. I have my post-op appointment tomorrow. Hopefully, I will get some answers. It's been two weeks and I'm really struggling with moving on. Most of the time I feel fine, then something will trigger my emotions and I'll get upset again. How long can I expect this to last?? I'm ready to feel like myself again. My hospital offers a monthly memorial service to honor and remember any baby that didn't make it. I'm not sure if I should go, will it re-open emotional wounds that are trying to heal or will it give me closure? Advice??