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I'm at cross roads here. I had lived with my boyfriend for over 5 years now..he's is divorced with 2 kids girl is 15 & boy is 10 yrs old...They live ft w/their mother & every other wk + 2 nights a week with us. I am struggling with him & his 2 kids...The kids basically hate me. His kids have NEVER been punished for nothing nor grounded by either parent. They say horrible rude things to me..when they "do" speak to me...or else they ignor me. my boyfriend which is 12 yrs older than me does or says nothing or else laughs along with his kids when their nasty towards me. We are engaged but never set a date or talk about it, he's never told his kids nor his parents which happen to live across the street & dispise me as well About our engagement. The kids have an excellent relationship with their mother & father, & my boyfriend treats me like dirt around his kids & still tucks them in at night & ignors me. His kids are horribly immature for their ages...their spoiled rotton & their mother has already re-married several years ago... Our relationship is fine till his kids comeover...& when I've tried to talk about how I feel...his threatens me to leave his house.I love him very much, but alot should change i believe HELP...Advice PLEASE!!!

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His kid are his kids, I hate to say it but you will never measure up to someone else kids. He have a longer relationship with them then you two will ever have. they have you by some years there. He is disrespecting you when he is laughing with the kids and not helping you when you need it. never stay somewhere where you feel like you are not wanted. Good luck to you javascript:void(0)
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Sounds like you will always be competing with his children Esmeralda. I think that if he is not not prepared to listen to you then you will always be second best. Does he ever talk about having more children with you?

Everybody please dont forget to vote.

You should never let someone disrespect you like that--you're worth more than that. You can love a person with all your heart, but that doesn't mean they're going to treat you right. It's wonderful that he's there for his kids, but he needs to be there for you too. He's making you feel second class, and what kind of example is he setting for his kids? I think you should find your own place to live, even if it's temporarily with friends or family, and the next time he threatens to kick you out, say "goodbye."

I wonder how Esmeralda1 is doing out there? Hey Esmeralda1 How ya doin? So far with your guy and his kids?