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I have a somewhat embarassing question. Does anyone besides me consider increased enjoyment of sex as one of the reasons for choosing the childree lifestyle?

Absolutely!! It's not a primary reason, but it is a good one. My husband and I do it whenever, wherever and however we want. We have a wonderful sex life, and I know that would change if we had a kid.

That's exactly what I look forward to when I find a woman who also doesn't want kids. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I don't think this is an embarassing question as sex is a wonderful and natural thing.

I must say, however, that the thought of a better sex life never crossed my mind as being cf has never been a choice for me. I was born cf -- was given a doll for my 1st b-day and started to cry and said something like: "Want no baby." I feel very uncomfortable with babies and toddlers in particular -- they make me nervous, yet, most important reason is that I don't think they are cute at all. I have been fascinated with career men and women since I was a little kid. Not that I was raised with the idea that I should be a career woman -- it was just a natural feeling and I have always felt that being a succesful career woman is the reason I was born into this world. Like I said, being cf has never been a choice -- I took it for granted as I take it for granted that I am female, a political scientist, black, animal lover, dark red-haired, short etc etc. I love everything that's me. I have mentioned it before on this board: I am a proud member of the World Childfree Association, which is an organization that is NOT against people with kids, but against being forced to make certain choices that can harm both the parent and the kid.

As for your question, Happy CF Guy, I don't think I can give a proper answer to it because I don't know. And my bf doesn't either. I don't know what it is like to want a child and he doesn't either so we also take our sex life for granted the way it is and we have never thought of what it would be like with kids -- not that I am able to reproduce; I was snipped last year on Dec 24 and had a wonderful xmas day -- no pain at all and feeling extremely happy.

ABSOLUTELY! Fortunately my husband and I agreed about the kid issue before we got married. We have a great sex life probably because we never have to worry about kids interrupting it! I think we share a greater sense of intimacy and are closer for not having kids. I can honestly say that after 7 years we are still best friends too- I don't think it would be possible with kids in the equation- at least not for us. Happy CF Guy- I know you will find a fantastic woman who does not want or need kids in her life. Good luck to you! <img src="/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

And the CF woman�s anatomy also count! <img src="/images/graemlins/devil.gif" alt="" />

Thanks, everyone, for the encouraging responses. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Don't feel embarassed for asking such a question. We are all friends here.

Although not what influenced my decision it is a perk to being childfree. My partner and I have always lived far away so we have not gotten to completely enjoy the sex part yet. He does however have a daugther already. When he has her and he comes to visit me or we go on a trip and get a hotel we have to sneak around just to have sex. I know he is frisky when he asks me, "Kat, can you come help me with something in the bathroom?" Or we have to wait until she is asleep. <img src="/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

primarily i think that is a good reason to remain childfree although in some marriages, as the decades go by the sex gets less and less, but having a child can put a huge hurdle in anyones sex life..you have to wait untill they are sleep and by then youre ready to go to sleep....and children seem to have a radar detector for any fun that might be happening without them..... and by the time they are eighteen and out of the house one of two partners has no more desire or needs the occasional viagra pill.....

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