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Hi Parthena,

Glad to have you back 'home'. Just take one day at a time. I have been where you are now and know that it is a difficult road to travel. But as you said you are moving toward healing. That's a good thing. You will remain in my prayers.

Concerning not charging fair price for your work. I continue to read that this is pretty much a woman's issue. We have been raised to nurture, <img src="/images/graemlins/angel.gif" alt="" /> for some reason charging less seems to come under that heading. In the book "Nice Girls Don't Get Rich", author Lois P. Frankel, PhD suggests that women should develop a written fee schedule. This way when you are asked "what do you charge?" You can say "Let me show you my fee schedule...". She reminds you that the schedule should be updated also.

V~

Parthena it's so good to hear from you and have you back. You don't need to thank me for looking in on the forum, it's been good for me to figure out some of the symbolism.

On grieving be kind to yourself & remember that the time most people need to recover from the loss of a loved one is two years. There are bound to be up days and down days for a long time to come. It sounds like you are doing very well in the circumstances. It helps in our line of work to know that they can still visit us doesn't it?

On charging I look at it this way: I have a talent for healing like someone else might have a talent for baking cakes or painting & decorating. Nobody would expect a baker or a decorator to work for nothing, so why would a healer's time be worthless? If I didn't charge I'd have to go and do something that didn't fulfil my life path, the healing would be squashed out & far fewer people would be helped by me. Also the money they give me is an exchange of energy for the time and energy I give them. It is their investment in their healing.

Parthena, just let the tears flow.

I lost a partner some years ago and set aside one hour a day for grieving. It gave me the space to really feel my emotions, while still dealing with other aspects of the day.

My blessings are with you.

He's made a few visits in dreams as well. I want him to visit every night, but I'm also aware that it's not fair to him to beg or ask. I'm taking it one night at a time......on his first visit, he told me to remember something - it was two words - I promised I would and can not remember it at all <img src="/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Parthena,
Once again, my condolences to you. I have never lost a husband to death, only to divorce; but my great-grandmother passed away just a few years ago, and she was so special to me! I know she did not share half of my heart the way a husband and wife do, so I can only encourage and pray for you, and hope that you soon you will find comfort in amongst the grieving.

I wanted to say somthing about your promise to remember in your dream; (I know this sounds weird coming from the newbie to the dreams editor - I apologize for being forward). But maybe what your husband asked you to remember was as simple a thing as remembering he loved you, or that you need to heal; something that your brain doesn't neccesarily need to remember, but your SOUL does. And if that is the case, then you will keep your promise, because your love for your husband will allow you to do nothing less.
Love, Michelle