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I have taken classes on on mental disorders and worked with those with developmental disabilities for four years. His mood swings are too frequent and his high aren't high enough and lows aren't low enough to be a serious case of bipolar. But you may be right, it maybe a psychological disorder. Maybe it is a mild case of bipolar or something similar. He is taking an Abnormal Psychology class soon, maybe he will discover his own problem during the course. I think he gets part of it from his mom. She is a control freak and gets stressed out sometimes but he is worse than she is.

The first time I ever saw interaction with him and his daughter was when we took her to play miniature golf and was yelling at her because she wouldn't hold the golf club correctly no matter how many times he showed her. Finally he told her she couldn't play anymore. I got onto him about it and reminded him that it is a stupid game and he needs to chill out. After that he let her play her way and she finally started having fun. I wish I could be around more to defend her but I live 200 miles away.

As for the drugs it is highly unlikely. Just a few weeks ago he went to a persons house with a friend of his but left because they broke out marijuana. He doesn't want to be around or associated with anything of that sort. If he wouldn't be around marijuana I doubt he would be involved in anything worse.

I do appreciate your advice but mostly I just need to vent. We are going to do a trial "live together" from August until December and I think it is a good opportunity to either work on his issues or to discover that we just aren't compatable and need to stop wasting our time.

Sorry, bad habit of mine. I just realized where else we've "met". No wonder I'm getting on you nerves! (I'm terrible with names). <img src="/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

I REALLY hope y'all aren't wasting each other's time, because it sounds ike you're just what he and his daughter (especially her) needs!

I was married to a man for 16 years who was very similar to the man that you are describing Kat - living with him was sheer hell and ruined both my life and that of our children - although they still hven't realised this yet as they love him whatever! To this day he blows up at the slightest situation if things don't go his way - he doesn't know or possess any patience. My son is now unfortunately going the same way and it hurts me dreadfully. Reading your account of how your boyfriend behaves with his daughter brought terrible times back to me. You sound very mature with regard to your boyfriend and his daughter and I very much hope that things work out for you all when you move in together.

Thank you for the encouragement. He is a good man with good intentions. We all have our moments but his are more frequent than most. His mood swings are rarely aimed toward me, they are usually directed to his daugher and his parents. I figure it is either one of two reasons, or maybe both combined. 1) I don't put up with his [censored] and put him in his place whereas his daugher can't and his parents don't and 2)we haven't spent enough time together for him to turn his frustration toward me (there has always been a distance between us).