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Have you had experience of a soul mate or twin flame relationship? <img src="/images/graemlins/lovers.gif" alt="" />
Was the way you met your partner 'fated'. Have you learnt lessons from past or present partners that you would like to share here?

Hi Lauren,

I consider my present husband my soulmate/twin flame. It definitely seemed fated, especially since our personalities are so very different. Yet, our paths are parallel and our strengths and weaknesses support one another wonderfully.

While my first husband (deceased) and I got along great, it just isn't the same as my present marriage. Hard to put in words! Do you have any experiences, Lauren?

Hello Janet, thanks for sharing. I've had experience of both a soul mate and a twin flame relationship. I wouldn't say one was better than the other, they were very different from each other.

My ex husband was a soul mate. We were together to sort some karma from past lives, which we both remembered sharing. I think we've treated each other somewhat better this lifetime, so hopefully won't be brought together for karmic reasons again. I'm glad we had our time together & I think we both developed & learnt from each other.

My twin flame relationship has been very intense & volatile, quite unlike anything I've ever experienced before. It's amazing to literally meet your 'other half' & before this I'd always been highly sceptical of the twin flame theory. I couldn't sustain the scepticism though as I got several powerful bits of confirmation that this was indeed my Twin.

What is your definition of twin flame versus soulmate? <img src="/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Me, I never really got caught up in those kind of ideas--feeling there were plenty of great matches out there for me...not just "the one".

But now that I have my husband, it seems like "the one" may come especially when you're not searching for him or her! <img src="/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I have an article up about this:Soul Mate & Twin Flame Relationships
Essentially you are right, there is more than one soul mate relationship out there for all of us, as we incarnate in soul groups. That's good news for those who have loved & lost. <img src="/images/graemlins/lovers.gif" alt="" />
Your Twin Flame is different- a unique 'match', quite literally your other half. There is only one Twin for you, who may or may not be incarnate at the same time as you are. Like I say I branded it a bit of nonsense until I experienced the difference myself. <img src="/images/graemlins/rolling.gif" alt="" />

Hi Lauren
I said I'd post something one day. I am going through a very intense period with what I thought was my soul mate and may in fact be my twin flame as the feelings are so intense we can hardly be in each other's company for too long sometimes. I know exactly what he's thinking and I accept him just the way he is, unconditionally. It has taken us a long time just to be good friends and, not trying to "blow my own trumpet" I have helped him so much. If you could only see how this shy, nervous and angry man has blossomed! Funny, my son sees it too! I don't know how it will end up but I do know I will always be there for him and he is grateful. Its like I can actually "feel" him as part of me when we are together. Viv

I feel like I have two in one.
We fit each other like two halves of the same coin.
We are so much alike in some ways and in the ways we are not he is completing me and I him.

There was huge magic when we met. Not just the "Wow, you turn me on kind," but the kind that lets you know you'd better pay attention. Like when he arrived to pick me up for the first date and found a set of maths books his father had written (20 years before) in my Dad's book case...symbolic stuff...astronomic stuff (blue moon<G>)...physical stuff...just all around uncanny stuff. It has continued as it started 17 years ago, and all the really odd things have become part of our personal memoirs. The best of all this soul mate/twin souls thing is how dear we are to each other in this life, how lucky we feel to be together, and how happy we are together. Blessed.

That doesn't mean there aren't times I'd like to take the head off him (or he me), but the intensity and duration of our spats are very short. Indeed, they are always...educational. When we hiss at each other, it's something that should be addressed within ourselves and shows us where we could afford to grow a bit. (I had, and still have, far to go. Him, not so far, as he was a bit farther along when we met.)

He's always been a seeker and I a seer, so when we came together it was indeed a sight to behold.<G> What I find most interesting is that he, who has never "seen the light" himself (he's still too stiff-necked to just let go) brought me right to the door and I just stepped across the threshold. He believes, desires, and would love to, but he just cannot seem to submit to it. Maybe someday.

Well, this is a bit off track, but it's some of what I know about twin souls or soulmate relationships.

Hello Viv
Welcome to the forum, so glad you made it. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

This does sound very twin flame like in nature. This one will be a big learning relationship for both of you & you will notice rapid change in yourself, as well as the changes that are happening within him. Powerful stuff!

That is beautiful Mary Ellen. What a wonderful relationship, the sort I think we'd all aspire too. Cherish. <img src="/images/graemlins/kiss.gif" alt="" />
As for the spirituality, I don't know why it is, but these things generally seem harder for men. Maybe it is fear of letting go of control & letting things flow.

Are you sure you want to get me started? <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

We had wanted to start a pagan community in our area for a long time. The lovely lady who was working on this had kind of a militant attitude and wasn't getting much interest for longer than a year. I offered to help - I'm a social worker by profession and good with people. I'm not really sure what I did that was so different other than work hard for about two months, but we held a meet and greet and over 20 people showed up. One of the people that responded and came told us about his message board Mystic Wicks I joined and made a few friends.

One of them was a man who was a lot of fun to talk to, was very nice and wrote amazing poetry and stories, which he posted online. He also painted and sculpted. He kept disappearing every few months with no explanation......

Now, this will be a long story, so I will give it to y'all in little chapters.....

To be continued <img src="/images/graemlins/angel.gif" alt="" />

I want to answer this question, because I believe my husband was meant for me, but I don't believe in reincarnation (please, no offense meant to those of you that do). So my answer may not be exactly along the soul mate/ twin flame answer.

My 1st husband I "fell in love with" at 19, quit college (w/ a scholarship - I still shudder), had 2 beautiful children, and went through an unhappy marriage and ugly divorce.

I became a Christian during this ugly process. Afterwards, while I was still bitter and hurting, I remember praying to God and saying, "Lord, I don't know how to be alone, but I don't know how to trust anyone again. If You ever want me to get re-married (my ex had already married the woman he was having the affair w/)You will have to send me the guy, and knock me over the head to let me know he's the one."

About 6 months later was my 10 yr high school reunion. I met up w/ lots of old friends. 1 particular guy, whom I had never dated but been good friends with, just hit it off. A large group of us started going out monthly. Then one month everyone cancelled except me and David. We dated for a year as "just friends" - no kissing, no handholding even. When we decided our feelings went deeper than friendship, we decided to include my children on the dates, because they would be so involved in any permanent decision. My then 2 yr old daughter was terrified of everyone. She did not like for anyone to pick her up except me, not even her grandparents if she had her choice. On the 2nd date, when I went to get her out of the car seat she said, "David hold me." I thought i was going to pass out. Because that's what getting hit over the head by God does to you!
David is everything I have ever wanted, needed, or even imagined. He is my support, my lover, my comforter, my best friend. God gave me the man to fill every hole in my life that needed filling (that a person could fill, God fills the rest).
So is that a soul mate or a twin flame? He completes me (Oh how I hate to use anything Mr. Cruise ever said) <img src="/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />
He is my other half (definitely the better half!), my missing piece! <img src="/images/graemlins/lovers.gif" alt="" />