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I enjoy my nieces. I like being around well-behaved children who aren't bratty. (If they're horrible, it's not really their fault... I blame the parents).

I love my own kids......that's enough for me.

No, I don't like them at all. But the weird thing is, they lo-o-o-ove me. My nephew can't leave me alone for one second. When we visit, I dread having to come out of the bedroom in the morning because I am pounced upon and forced to play most of the day. And when parents see that their offspring have gravitated to me, they smile and walk away...aaahh, don't leave me alone with this kid!!!

It's actually why I really hate having to have sex. One of my friends has just had her third child -- all accidents on properly used birth control. They just shrug and laugh. I am gripped with utter horror. I would rather die, myself.

I think it is just that I don't like family. I grew up with two mentally ill parents, who both hate kids, by the way. To me, a family is a place where people tear each other to bloody bits. I am married and that is about all I can take!

LOL my grandmother has the same problem with dogs! She's absolutely terrifed of them, can't stand them, and they will ignore everyone else and head straight for her while she stands there in a frozen stupor. <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Discounting my own kids, 3 (2 from previous marriage, 1 from this marriage) I have certain ages i can deal w/. Infants - cool, meet their basic needs and cuddle them, problem solved. Once they turn 2 and the tantrums start- augh! (mine's there now, i had forgotten how much fun it is ) <img src="/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Elementary school I'm pretty good w/ until they hit the smart aleck phase, then all patience flies out the window. I get along great w/ girls in the early teens though, I direct an ensemble of middle school girls at church - they are really sweet. High school- totally depends on the kid. Boys in general just confuse me, which is pretty bad since I have 2 of 'em (13 yr old w/ Asperger's and the 2 yr old, daughter is 7)

Funny thing though, before I got married and had kids, I always swore I wouldn't because I wanted to be a career woman - psychologist w/ an emphasis on musical therapy. (Didn't know I was preparing for my own child) <img src="/images/graemlins/heart.gif" alt="" />

I've always been afraid to admit it, but I don't really like kids either. If they are not screaming or throwing a tantrum, they're getting into something.
"I am VERY uncomforatable around children. Babies and toddlers especially. I just don't understand them. And they make me WAY nervous. You just don't know what they are going to do -- what makes them cry, or STOP crying. And I never know if they are understanding me when I'm talking to them, or what they want, or anything.

I feel EXACTLY the same way. I've always been very uncomfortable around children, but was always afraid to admit it to anyone else because I thought I was a freak.

"No, I don't like them at all. But the weird thing is, they lo-o-o-ove me. My nephew can't leave me alone for one second. When we visit, I dread having to come out of the bedroom in the morning because I am pounced upon and forced to play most of the day. And when parents see that their offspring have gravitated to me, they smile and walk away...aaahh, don't leave me alone with this kid!!!"

ROFLMAO Oh my God!! I have the same exact problem!! My brothers-in-law are like that and just being with them for an hour is EXHAUSTING.

I just don't like the fact that I see so many kids who don't turn out right. So do I hate kids? A lot of times, yes.

I personally love children. I personally don't feel financially ready to have children of my own. Everyone says you manage once you have a baby. But I for one struggle enough as it is, much less having to worry about taking care of a child. I could not stand the guilt. Maybe I am selfish? I do think children are a blessing from God. But to be realistic you have to have a decent income and a 2 parent marriage to raise a decent child nowadays. If I could stay home and care for my child, than maybe I would have one. Now I am 34years old and me and my husband are in college and work full time. I come home exhausted now. Imagine adding a child to that? I also don't understand how people have babies in a daycare for 9 to 10 hours a day. Not only is it expensive, but it really is unfair to the child. My mom stayed home with all of us children. Women don't have that option nowadays. Which is really sad. There is alot wrong with society and it seems like children don't have a chance anymore. I really do feel sorry for kids who have to grow up in this society.

I don't like to say that I hate kids as hatred is a very destructive emotion. I prefer to say that I really, really dislike them. I don't see why they are cute. I really can't stand them.

I don't give a hoot about what others think. No one is forced to love kids -- no one is forced to love animals, sports, movies, cooking, shopping, traveling, reading, singing etc either. So why do others expect me to love kids?

I have never loved kids and I never will. To be honest, they highly irritate me -- even when I only see them.

Actually I DO like kids. I work with them on a daily basis as I train teachers how to best reach kids in the classroom. But I am smart enough to know that even though I like them, liking isn't enough. Case in point- my sister has two boys 6 and 8 years old. They have been bounced back and forth between two VERY inadequate parents since their divorce three years ago. The boys are great- but it is obvious they are starved for attention as their parents use them as a rope in their tug of war for power over each other.

Also- while I like kids I know that I don't want them in my house- as soon as the nephews visit my carefully cleaned and pretty home becomes a disaster area full of chaos and noise. I need peace in my home and it is all I can do not to drink myself into oblivion just to escape it all. (HA HA) We also have the money to splurge on great things like a pool in the back yard, a nice home in a nice neighborhood-and save a considerable amount for our retirement as well.

I also see countless numbers of high school students on a daily basis whose parents don't give a damn about them and it infuriates me. Fortunately for those kids there are educators like my husband and myself who have the time and energy to devote to their interests simply because we don't have kids of our own. As for those who say, "But what about when you are old? Who is going to take care of you?" My insurance agent stated it like this (she is also CF) "That's what long-term care insurance is for." Not to mention the fact that if I had kids I wouldn't want them to feel as though they had to "take care of me" anyway!

BTW kim- I have found this site to be a tremendous help in times of anxiety and self-doubt- but I always come back to feeling like I have made the right decision! Getting my IUD next week! YIPPEE!

Right on clasater. I only wish more people felt that way. If people were as realistic and level headed about having children as you are then there wouldn't be so many social problems.