BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids Did you play with baby dolls as a kid?

Lol - sorry, I had to ask! I'm just wondering if other women who are choosing not to have kids ever thought they wanted them. I never fantasized about having kids at all - and I didn't even like baby dolls when I was really little.

I did like Barbie-type dolls, those plastic horses, and stuffed animal toys - but that's as close as that ever got. <img src="/images/graemlins/rolling.gif" alt="" />

I always knew I didn't want kids. And to answer your question, I didn't play with baby dolls. I loved to play with trucks (yeah, a little bit of a tomboy) and my little ponies.

Well, don't know if I am allowed to play here or not LOL. I am married with a kid. I had dolls, liked trucks better, loved torchering the bratty neighbor boy. When I was little, I wanted to be a boy. then I wanted to get married have 12 kids and be a garbage man or a playboy centerfold... hey... life is tough when you are 5 and in headstart!

Then I was never ever going to get married, met my hubby at 19 and at 36 we are still happily together. Not sure if I ever wanted children, then had a burning desire to have 2, boy then a girl. Stopped at the boy, love him dearly, wouldn't trade him for the world, but figure I will never get that lucky twice in row LOL.

I think we just make the choices that are best for us. I get so much [censored] "you only have one, how horrible for your only child, he is so deprived" blah freekin' blah. none, one,10.... whatever,

If your happy and you know it clap your hands

AM~

I wish I knew early on that I didn't want kids. It took some serious soul searching to realize what I was feeling was the desire to NOT have them.

I did play with dolls. I was insanely protective of them. I'd be a stiffling mother. I did enjoy being a tomboy as well, but I did play with dolls and barbies.

Yes, I played with dolls--Barbie dolls. I also played with large dolls, but I was rarely the Mommy--I was always their nurse or teacher.

I'm glad this post came up. I was wondering if there was a relationship between girls who didn't like dolls and a lack of maternal instinct later on. I HATED dolls! I would walk my stuffed animals around the house on leashes. I remember making my mom buy me one doll named Baby Doodoo. The second I brought it home, I took it in the basement and cried and threw her away because I hated her. I think even at a young age I felt like I should like playing with dolls because my sisters did, but also frustrated because i didn't know what to do with them.

I'm married w/ no children and never liked playing w/ dolls. I'm very tall 5'11" and thin people always ask if I model. I went the route of using my mind...looks don't last. Anyway I digress... The reason I mention this is that sometimes it's assumed you are 'butch' if you didn't play w/ dolls, which I am not. I can remember only having one doll as a kid. It was one that ate and pooped. I was so interested that it's mouth moved and curious on how it worked. Needless to say I distroyed the doll trying to figure it out. The only other doll I can remember is my sisters Barbie doll. We weren't rich and she only had one Barbie. Well, I cut the doll's hair off expecting it to grow back...Guess what...it never did. <img src="/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

I didn't like dolls, I had more boys who were my friends than girls. I never met a tree I didn't want to climb. And I never wanted to babysit as a teen even though I was hardworking & greedy for money.

I loved my Cabbage Patch Kid and had all the "mommy stuff" for it. I also played with Barbies, but that is a whole different thing, since Barbie is an "adult."

It seems like I always knew I didn't want kids, but I find references in old journals when I first met my husband to "what a great father he would make." It seems like someone else was writing that, though, because I don't remember actually thinking that! He is good with kids, and enjoys our niece and nephew, but he has no desire to have kids of his own.

I think his parents and family think it is ME who has made this decision for us. It was actually something we both agreed on.

Isn't it interesting that if you've never actually talked about wanting kids, people always assume that you DO? His family doesn't know him all that well, and he never talked about it, but they assume everyone wants kids, and so he must too.

I'm 37 & my husb is 39 & we recently decided to be CF and have never been happier!!
I thought playing with dolls was excruciatingly boring. They didn't DO anything! The only one I was ever interested in was the big Barbie "head" where you could do her makeup. I loved to draw & paint, so it never went further than an art project for me.
Besides my paint & crayons, the only other things that did anything for me were: anything that moved (toy cars, wind up airplaines, rockets, kites, etc) my litebrite, science kits, legos, well pretty much everything BUT dolls!!! I wanted to create, not play mommy.
I played with boys & girls equally, but if the girls wanted to sit around dressing their barbies, I'd be out of there. I always played either the teacher, the "bad student", the the "Charlie's Angel", the "movie director", never ever the mommy.
I'm been so relieved latley as I've been trashing the negative feelings I've always had about not wanting to be "the mommy". Now I can concentrate on the things that make me who I am.

I played with dolls and paper dolls also. I suspect that I am the 'grandma' here (or would be if I had children), I do not have children, but I do absolutely adore love them and they love me as well. I am an favorite auntie in my family and my extended family also. My decision to remain childless stemmed from a bad marriage, I just could not see having a baby with a man I was soooo miserable with <img src="/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> Later I was busy with my career. However, being childless in a family that believes 4 to 5 children per couple is the norm is very difficult. I do not regret my decision. I have lovely nieces and nephews and a 20-something 'daughter' by way of my good friend.