tiflyn:
I have discovered that many sinlge parents go through stages...denial, hope for reconciliation, and then all the things you listed above.
The hurt, bitterness, anger, reentment phase is the hardest to overcome. Mine lasted about 1 year. My mothers has now lasted 20 years and is still ongoing.
It helped me to focus on what I did wrong and try to fix it instead of dwelling on what he did wrong. It was easy at first to say, "I never did anything" but little things started making sense.
I wouldn't do the dishes..sounds silly but loking back I can see how much that annoyed my ex, so I do them now. I watched too much TV...I don't own one now. I was too controling and pushed my views on him...I've backed off around other people and let them have their own opinions.
It is VERY hard. I am not sure if you are a religious person or not but if you are prayer really does help. I have pleaded with Heavenly Father many times to help me through some trials and as long as I did all I could things would always seem to just work out.
((((HUGS))))