[color:"purple"]i've always had the same problem.
a few things can contribute to this: the texture of your hair; the shampoo; the conditioner - especially if you don't use one; the hardness of your water; new growth (which will always stick up until it's long enough to blend in with the rest of your hair). if your hair has not been treated in some way - color, perm, etc. - it is more likely to have these fly-aways. using a regular brush and/or being too rough with wet hair can cause breakage (which might be the issue). i've always used a wide tooth comb on wet hair and run my fingers through it when drying - i use a vent brush towards the end of the drying - it has few bristles that are spaced widely apart.
see this site for brush types that are easy on the hair:
http://www.ballbeauty.com/denman.htm(you don't have to use that brand, just wanted you to be able to see what i'm talking about).
i have very fine hair and moved to an area with very hard water. i had absolutely nothing on the hair - no coloring or perms. it was very bad! changing shampoo brands helped (i currently use pantene smooth shampoo and conditioner - it's the green bottle). that helped a bit.
i invested in a hairdryer from sharper image catalog - it's the reversed ion dryer. it was touted to reduce these fly-aways and the general frizzyness that results from using a hairdryer. it works!!!! it was expensive (can't remember, exactly - i've had it for almost 5 years, but it was around $50 at the time). definitely worth the investment!!!!
i also use a finishing product - john frieda's sheer blonde dream cream. there are different shades for different shades of blonde. altho i've got brown hair with blonde highlights i still tried it and it just brought out the highlights more, didn't make it red.
recently they came out with a 'brilliant brunette' line. if you're a dark brown, you might want to try that one.
it works great! really makes the hair silky and gets rid of the flyaways completely. it's not greasy and doesn't make the hair stiff. a little goes a long way!!! [/color]