BellaOnline Forums Relationships Relationships I need some advice......

Is there someone out there that can help?
I am in a relationship with a gentleman who was an LDS member. Key word was. He was married to his wife (also lds) for about 3 years. They have been divorced for about a year and a half. They lived in Utah. (a little back ground) Okay, I have been in the relationship with him for a little over a year and he says he loves me and my sons, but I don't feel like there is going to be any marriage. We have already been intimate. And are going to be living together and I want to be married when we live together. He has bought all these things for my sons and treats them pretty much as his own (there are rough times), makes promises to all of us about the future. I am just really insecure. Because if he loved her so much to marry her, why not me? I want to become a member of the church, as I have been speaking with missionaries and have attended the church a couple of times and love it. I know this kind of bounces all over and is a lot, but I really need some input?????????????
Thanks.

The only thing I can say is don't feel alone. I'm in the same boat with my girlfriend. I want to marry her and get started building on the solid foundation we allready have. But she doesn't.

Well I he knows I want to be married but I don't mention it. He just bought me a ring and said it was my "look like I am attached ring" not an engagement ring. We laugh, but I just want to do the right thing. I just feel like maybe he still loves the ex more than me. I would of thought even tho' he is not a member anymore that he would still have some of the morals.

Yikes. Do not become a member of the LDS church without A LOT of your own -independent from him- research first. I was a mormon for 22 years and resigned my membership 2 years ago.
This much I can tell you about a mormon man.... the church will always come first, it will always get inbetween you. I was married to one myself.
If it were me, I would run far far away- but it isn't- so please just make sure you learn everything you can before making this decision.