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Thank you Angel. I used to have to watch my mother get beaten by my father when I was 5. Been there done that. Got the scars to prove it.

Me too Dave, it certainly leaves an impression doesn't it?

Yes, it does. I can watch realistic movies about domestic violence and to this day I can still get that anxiety in the pit of my stomach.

I have seen some American fundamentalist Christian websites, which advocate the husband disciplining his wife to keep her in order!

This is a quote from one such forum!


"I believe strongly in spanking and even in spanking a wife when needed. I assure you it is only for discipline and there is no sexual side to it. I believe that there would be much less domestic violence and divorce in the man took the lead in the home and when the wife was out of line, giving a good spanking rather that a punch, kick or even having a big fight. I believe that a spanking should be hard enough to make her cry and if she is showing a rebellious spirit in regard to the spanking it ought to be hard enough to take that out of her. Even in regard to children the Bible says not to spare for their crying. I expect more from my wife than my children so I would discipline her accordingly. Although, after 13 years of marriage she probably only gets spanked about once every year and a half."

Sick or what?

Oh my God.

Those were the first words that came to mind when I read that quote, and I just realized how appropriate they are, because that kind of warped thinking is not connected to MY God in any way, shape, or fashion!

Why was this not deleted from that forum by the moderators? are such posts allowed on forums? Will such a post be allowed on this forum? What you have quoted goes against all the religions that teach love. This is cruelity. That man should be thrashed.

Having spent time in a shelter for domestic violence I can say for certain they are very much needed and they also needed to be in a safe and protected area. The place I stayed had bars on the first floor and the back yard was fenced in completely with locks and barbed wire on the top. Many of the women who were abused came from homes in the better areas and the abusers were not who you would ever suspect.
My daughters and myself left with the clothes on our back. We had to give up everything for safety reasons and I never regretted it for one moment. The man who abused me is now sitting on death row for killing a woman and her son that he was engaged to. My abusers never spent any time in jail when it happened and was let free since he was drunk. A police officer at the court came to my home and picked up my daughters and myself and took us to safety after he heard my abuser say he was going to slaughter us when he got home. And yet he was allowed to leave. I lost my job over the entire mess, my car vanished. The officer went to all the court dates etc. and was outraged that this animal went free. He told the judge this man was dangerous but the judge did not believe anyone. Later when the man killed this woman and son the judge said he had made a bad judgement call. What I find ironic is this judge is still a judge in domestic court.

That's terrible. Sometimes justice does not happen.

When I read the entry about the wife getting a spanking for discipline purposes, I kept thinking it was a joke. Could it be true?! Seems inconceivable.

Yes, it seems inconceivable.

You would be surprised at what some "religions" say about how a husband should treat his wife. This is why I don't touch the religion subject over at the domestic violence site. I felt forced to marry my abuser not only by my abuser but by the Christian pastor who ran the homeless shelter I was in because of my abuser. I went to 2 Churches for help when I was trying to get away from my abuser. I was told by both pastors that he was my husband and I had to obey him and his way of "displining" me for not being the wife "God" wanted me to be.