Don't over generalize.
At Lake Merrit when I moved there I was overjoyed at all the lovelies in running clothes being healthy jogging. Then I broke my brain thinking: "If I 'rap' to her, she'll think I rap to all the cuties.. and if she listens, I'll think she listens to all the dogs..." and I gave up!
You might be completely right Pamela, but my two cents is BE CAREFUL THE ENERGY YOU PUT OUT, it comes back to you! Why do you call it "his services" anyway? Are you seeing him as a service? I would think, hope, that honesty is high on your list of qualifications, and there are easy ways to check yourself before you wreck yourself - "partners" means you have multiple, you meant "partner's" I suppose?
Why not have loving conversation with your "servicer" (and don't use that term sistah!) about how 2 people make a 1 on 1, that's all we need, committed, deep in love, completely fulfilling, faithful relationship work?
I think THE ONLY PROBLEM WITH THE BLACK MAN is his being stereotyped with simple teenage mentality labels, forced into roles imposed by small thinking people
Maybe what you are talking about is the problem with good looking, right-thing-saying, great-in-bed men...
Love peace and chicken grease, Teo <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />