Yikes

Cathie, this is a disaster!
I would suggest using only semi-permanent color on your hair.
You didn't give a history of what has been on your hair but any previous tinting or lightening has caused your hair to be overly porous. What product was used to remove the hair color? Most likely that was very harsh too.
Deep condition your hair and use only semi-permanent hair color (I'm thinking a good quality color - like Redken Shades EQ) Choose a lighter shade rather than a darker shade. Your hair could still grab dark.
The best thing you can do is to go to an experienced hairdresser who is recommended by people with "good" hair. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Have the color corrected there.