BellaOnline Forums Relationships Marriage I Am Obsessed With My Wife... Help!!!

After 27 years of marriage you'd think I'd want to get away and take a break?!
But No... I can not stop thinking about her all day and all night?!
I can not do much work at the office and don't want to call her place and bug her. But it is eating me inside.
I love her too much and that is killing me.

She is vewry much bothered by it and I know if I pretend I dont care, she will come to me, but I can not pretend!?

Please some one tell me what to do?

thanx in advance.

It sounds like your life is being effected by your feelings and thoughts for your wife. What you are describing is not the typical situation between two married people.

Have you spoken to a professional who is knowledged in helping people to examine their feelings and control them on a healthy level?

Dear XLR;
Thanks for the reply <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I was thinking about the counselor too but I dont think she would go?

may be I take a trip and go see my family members in europe? they been calling me here lately wanting me to go there, so I think this will be a good opportunity to may be forget about her for at least a little while? Or go back to the airport the next day, sit there and beg them to take me back home on the next flight, may be in the luggage compartment?? may be hanging off the wheels? J/K <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
LOL <img src="/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Greetings,

You could see a professional without her. It would be to your benefit and happiness.

I think a visit with your family or some ongoing activity for yourself sounds like a great idea. Maybe start small and build your ability to enjoy a little time for you.

Your problem is? Sorry I�m not being ignorant here however after 27 years of marriage, I think it would be great to be obsessed lol. Unless it is an obsession where you don�t trust her?

Dude, get out more with your friends without your wife. I know it will be hard at first, but frankly, eventually your obsession may turn into not liking being with her. She probably would like it if you did go out without her, it will give her time to herself and I think she would like that as well.

Go to individual counseling, by far, one of the best things I've ever done for my soul, besides this forum. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

If someone had said that I have stopped loving my wife, that would have needed advice. Your question is like asking -Please help, I never fall sick.