BellaOnline Forums Relationships Marriage I need advise from someone who is married...

I also say when in doubt, wait.

I am 22 and married very happily. My husband and I were only together for 9 months when we got married, we were married in june of 2004. I couldnt be happier when you find the right one you just know, if it isnt real something inside you will have reservations about the whole thing. Look deep inside yourself and your relationship, as husband and wife you have to grow together and accept each other for who you are totally and completly

I married at 30 and I am very glad I didn't do it before then.

I lived in Europe, went to grad school -- picked up and went anywhere I wanted. I dated some guys, and generally grew up.

Marrying too young is fear of losing someone, as far as I am concerned. How do I know? Because boyfriends I had when I was younger talked marriage and it definitely came from that motive.

As you mature, you do lose people and find out you can do without them. Pain and loss are the main parts of the story. The let you figure out what you really need and want.

I really wouldn't do it.

I know people who got married at 17 and been married for 47 years now and Happy, I also know people who got married at 25 and been married 2 years and Divorced.

Marriage and age doesnt matter. I see that from the everyday couples. My Aunt got married at 35 and got divorced 3 years later. It all depends on the person you marry not the age you get married.

I wondered the same thing at your age. I'm 26, happily married for almost 2 years now. My advice: If you have to wonder if you are too young, you probably aren't ready. I'm the youngest of 7 children, and tried to learn from their mistakes, so I asked each one who married... (all around the age of 19) if they had it to do over again would they wait? Everyone said they would, some said they would marry the same person again, others would not have, but they all agreed they were too young. I hope this helps.

My husband and I met when he was 16 and I was 17. We were best friends for a little over a year before we started dating. We lived together from the ages of 19-21 before he left for boot camp (AirForce) and proposed to me. We got married August 1st 2004 and are the happiest couple you will ever meet. I think that in order for ANY relationship to work, you have to be best friends first before lovers. If you base a relationship on sex and children, it's not gonna work.
Age doesn't matter, friendship and love do.

I think that you will know in your heart without a doubt when it's the right time <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

now you can do for you then you will be doing for two

now whose being rude not all of us marry for convenience and by the sound of things you dont seem very happily married which i guess is what happens when you marry for the wrong reasons!
i shall pray that God blesses you with a love like you have never known!! <img src="/images/graemlins/ooo.gif" alt="" />

heehee, this person doesn't know about MY marriage. i'm not allowed to do the dishes or take out the trash because my husband insists on doing them for me. i'm treated like a queen and don't regret marrying this one, he's a keeper. course, i didn't find him til i was older, so i say wait for the right man/woman. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />