Betrue - my sympathy goes out to you. You sound like a good person who thinks things out rationally. IMO your relationship with your wife is so wrong on so many levels. I see red flags all over the place.
Do you honestly believe that if you give in to her demands (and threats) that things will improve? Well, things WILL NOT improve. She will devote all her time to the baby and you will be left out in the cold completely. And your sex life will certainly not improve.
You say that the two of you are best friends and partners in life - WHAT?? You call her 'best friend' when she tries to intimidate you and tells you to leave if you don't agree to have a kid with her.
You need to re-evaluate your life. Think about all the other possibilities you've got. It doesn't sound like life is much fun for you in this situation.
Oh, and be careful of the 'OOPS, I got pregnant". Make sure it is YOU that takes care of the birth control cause a lot of women that are hell bent on having a kid will do just about anything in their power to get what they want.
Good luck, an keep us posted.
cp
