Hi I'm new here. I really need to vent about my adult stepdaughter. She is 24. As my user name suggests I am indeed frustrated and fed up with the BS. Her father and I met in 1991, two years after he and his wife legally split (step daughter was 6 when we met). We have always gotten along fine, even though I have no children of my own (nor did I ever want any). Fast forward...SD dropped out of high school at age 16 and despite my strong objections, her parents did not force her to return to school (lived with mother in another state). SD got pregnant at 19 and just had another child this year (now has a 5 year old and 4 month). She is with the father of the kids. SD has worked a total a 6 months her entire life (no exaggeration) and has no concept of what work is for all intents and purposes. She was incredibly spoiled by her parents, obviously. Anyway, SD calls father when she wants $ or wants to complain about her life (now blaming her mom for not providing a stable home for her as a child). Basically, SD calls her dad and stresses him out. Now she calls him and springs on him that she and the BF are going to get married on 11/22 and she wants her parents to give her $ for a reception. Her mother called us screaming about this latest antic that SD is pulling. She does not have any $ and we are by no means able to contribute anything substantial, let alone on such late notice. I am livid about this latest manipulative, entitled attitude but mostly am mad that she has no regard for how hard her father works and how it is not his job to take care of her anymore. She calls him up and starts crying about her life, guilting him into sending her $ and completely stressing him out. That in turn puts a strain on our relationship because what affects him, affects me too. So, I am just about fed up with all the BS and I'm ready to lay into this young lady once and for all, even if it means having a non-relationship from now on. I'm tired of her acting like a brat. I want to tell her that she made her bed and that it is time that she grows up and takes some responsibility for herself. She has man and it is his job to take care of her now, not her dad's. Yes we all need a little help from family once in awhile, but this constant drama is over the top. It's just one 'tragedy' after another with this girl and it's about to send me over the edge. I've waited in the wings for 18 years for this child to grow up so her father and I can finally have some 'us' time. Seems the SD will not let this happen. Tell me, what would you do?