A part of me cannot believe what I just read and another part of me is full of rage...
His good � and not so good � friends were always telling him that � it�s like a criminal act not to have a kid after so many years of marriage�, or that � why did you two got married if not to have kids� or � who�s going to inherit the property� ---
He told me that he hasn�t met a more selfish person than me (although I�m the only one having done volunteer work among his circle), that if my parents shared the same way of thinking I wouldn�t be here now�what�s the meaning of life and working and earning money if not to have kids (that�s outrageous)�.that I don�t contribute anything to humanity apart from my garbage
That's just outrageous. I cannot believe your own husband would speak down to out that way. A man who should be nothing but loving, supportive and helpful and he's being inconsiderate, selfish and treating you as if you're worth less than nothing all because you won't give into his demands to ruin your life??? God, that is just beyond my understanding.
Honestly, I completely understand how saddening and difficult this all must be for you right now. Separation/Divorce is never easy and can be quite an emotionally painful and exhausting process to go through. But you need a man who is going to love and stand by you no matter what. One who is going to defend you to all of his jackass friends and family members.
I can relate somewhat to how painful that feels since my husband has taken his family's side over mine from time to time. After explanation (and sometimes an argument), he then understands he was wrong and asks for forgiveness. I still worry that one day he will side with them again and I won't be able to forgive him. But you know if that were ever to happen again, I swear it would be all be over in a heartbeat. I won't tolerate it again, I tell you that much. If he can't grow a pair of balls and be a real man, then I don't need him.
I applaud you for being a great example of a courageous woman. You are my hero! And I wish more women could have the guts to stand by their decisions. Good for you.
I wish you all the best Lotte. I'm sorry you have to work through all these struggles but you will get by. Many blessings <3
