No that's what I meant. People try to act like I'm making a choice to not want kids when really its just that I'm different inside. I can't change, I can either stand up and fight the fight, or I can fake it and live a lie and be miserable. Just like a person who's gay. And no one can seem to understand that. And gay people have been fighting this fight for much longer and there are even studies they could point to and our society is finally starting to see the truth, but for women who don't want children we are only just beginning our battle and we need studies to begin that can show people we are born this way. OK, so the comparison does not correlate 100%, but through all this stress and pressure I do feel I've gained a better understanding of what gay people go through.
And to Jellyroll above, yes it gets so tiring and stressful, but I only have kept up with the friends/family who really try to make an effort to not talk a lot about their kids and to keep our relationship strong. I guess we're making effort from both sides so those are the people who are worth it to me.
