Hey y'all I was not making a statement that I felt I WAS being selfish that I would not consider selling my eggs; with the question mark I meant to indicate that I wondered if some might consider me to be.
A few of my CF friends that I know don't want children because they love their lives just like they are and don't want to take time out for child rearing. Some of these women would be willing (I asked) to donate or sell their eggs to enable someone else to conceive.
I don't think that I would do that anymore than I would have a child and willingly give it up for adoption. To me they are practically the same thing.
But y'all know what? I really wish that people who conceive naturally had to pass JUST HALF of the scrutiny of the people trying to adopt. If people had to prove they were ready to be parents before they had kids the world would be a better place.
As far as adopting from the foster system; that is a nightmare that I have observed up close in two different cases. Relatives seem to leave the children in the system without a care for years until some couple wants to adopt them and then everybody from aunts to great-grandmothers come out of the woodwork Or even better mom does a complete turn around and cleans up her life for a few weeks and takes the child back. In a month or so (however long it takes to completely traumatize the kid) the authorities inevitably have to remove the kid again. They can say the adoptive fees are free all they want, but the people I knew had unbelievable legal fees. It's my opinion that they would have been much better off to live their CF lives to the fullest and have left it alone rather than endure the heartache and misery the pursuit of children gave them.
Last edited by msbaby; 08/09/08 11:37 PM.
