I agree that God hates divorce, its in the bible.
But, if your husband abuses you, if he does not love and respect you (and that he should love and respect you is also in the bible), then WHO is making the divorce? And are you obliged to risk your life and stay in a marriage that HE is breaking? Even if your church helps him to break this marriage by doing NOTHING to stop him? Is't such a church responsible of this divorce too?
So I think that if a pastor says you must stay with your husband, he is at the same time obliged to take care of your safety. At least to try to stop your husband.
(excuse me if my english is not very well)
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