ok so I am wondering how many CF people out there have the courage to come forward and admit what I am about to....(it is not THAT bad!)
the number one reason why I chose not to have children is because of my family and his! I had lousy parents. Genetically defective for one. And insanity and neurosis and psychosis are common features of my ancestors. My mother did not know how to be a mother and didn't care enough to find out--I mean be real, she could have atleast read Dr. Spock! My father is a total loser and always has been. A liar, cheat, BS-er of the nth degree. Crazy as a loon, religious delusions. My only sibling is a nutcase who produced 2 nutcases of her own. For my own survival I moved away and stayed away. I have more contact with my mother now than I ever have, but she has called me on the phone maybe 3 times in 20 years--yeah she really misses me!
My husband's family---oh gawd. I have nearly left him a hundred times in 8 years all because of those horrible, evil people! Mine are nuts-but his are EVIL. Malicious, cruel, abusive. The word 'dysfunctional' does not even begin to cover the bases with them. If my family was on Dr. Phil--his would be on Jerry Springer. I knew before we ever met I did not want to pass even half my genes to another poor victim---but a week after meeting him I knew abortion would be the kindest route to take if I ever got pregnant. I would never allow his family to be alone with any child of mine--and they know it. They have threatened to kill me for it--and I am not exaggerating or joking.
How he and I turned out the way we did is unknowable--we must be throw-backs to some healthier genetic contribution of our ancient pasts.
But to take a chance on that happening again with a child of ours---too risky!
I have bad health and that is a consideration in my decision. The state of the World in general is another consideration. But neither of those two aspects would have stopped me from having children.
Anyone else make the decision to be CF based on their own or spouses family?
