With respect to marriage: I believe that gay marriage should only be legalized if polygamist marriage (in all its incarnations) is given legal status as well.
An excellent point.
The complication with polygamist marriages, open relationships, polyamoury and polyandry is - that at one point or another - one member of the arrangement grows dissatisfied.
And of course, this
never happens with heterosexual, monogamous couples.
What is the divorce rate now - over 50 %?
I watched a very serious and well-researched programme about 6 months ago, about polyamory. They interviewed and closely followed seven different groups of people who had decided to enter into polyamorous relationships, for a whole year. Without exception, discord had arisen somewhere. Jealousy, resentment,and a general state of malaise or dissatisfaction was evident , to one degree or another in every single case.
Polyamorists, please weigh in here.
Personally, I do not think man (that is, mankind - women inclusive) are by nature monogamous. Nothing in our genetic predisposition suggests anything other than a want - dare I say /need/ for variety.
Interestingly enough, you and I had a previous discussion on the merits of Matriarchy and the Mosu. Synchronously, most matriarchal societies are decidedly polyamorous.
One man admitted, finally, that he exercised his right, as per their agreement, to have more than one partner other than his 'legal' wife, but forbade her from doing the same. So this, in effect, was bigamy, or having a mistress, rather than polyamoury, as they had both initially insisted it was.
That's rather unfair. Not entirely unsurprising either.
I think it's a sort of 'do as I say, not as I do' mentality. I'm still holding my opinion as regards nature, in any event.
The programme concluded that if relationships like this are to survive, and eventually become accepted, Human Beings will have to undergo a radical change in the way they perceive sex, marriage and fidelity.
Very obviously so. And I may argue that it is more natural to be attracted to multiple partners, but this may not be in the best interests of society - my verdict is still out on that, largely due to honesty issues and such.
Do research the Mosu though. Their social structure has worked quite well for centuries.
That's the one where the women take the active role in choosing the men they want to sleep with then sending them back home to their mothers in the morning. Women are the tribal heads and the children are raised with the mothers - the men as I recall all share the duties and roles of fathers to all children. Children are never role-dependent on who biologically concieved them in that sense.
Not an entirely bad thing, when you think about it.