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One thing leads to another, until what is meant to be will actually occur. That is a good story on how you met your husband, Elleise.

I believe that whole-heartedly!

I think even the bad stuff, like the really bad stuff can turn our lives in another direction sort of like a bridge to a place and/or people we never knew existed.

With love, though, there's this bounce. It's not like OMG he's soOooo cute. Though, those are fun too, but it's like a resilience. It knows or the people have this connection.

They know it won't always be like a wedding day, but even in the bad and/or boring times, they're the one they want to wake up next to on the other side of everything...like cycles of life

So true, Elleise. So true.

I've been thinking a lot about this question lately. I'm not certain why exactly, but maybe for the fact so many people have been or are currently going through it...

I know there are many good books out there on the topic that are especially helpful if you happen to be at a particular cross-road perhaps, wanting some perspective.

But sometimes, you just want a quick answer; a beginning, when you're ready to find the (type of) love you're looking for.

There are so many varieties. As many as there are personalities! And even then, with layers, much like an onion.

When you're ready for True-love, the type that has the greatest potential for lasting (as long as the willingness of both partners have of making it that way) the best place to begin finding that type, is:

"Make peace with yourself," first!

This, as a "Sensitive," is what I find, especially when it comes to a long-lasting partnership, withstanding the ups and downs life can throw our way.

From there, let nature take it's course and let go!

Destiny, synchronistic events, timing, etc., and likely when you least expect it, well...there's nothing standing in it's way, when you take this course of action.

Before you know it, you're seated on a train, waiting in line for coffee or trip and fall, feeling like a complete idiot, and the moment you look up?

There it is!

Makes sense, Elleise.