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Nobody is attacking you, Loong.

The only thing I see in the recent posts on this thread is that even if we don't agree with each other, we all have personal beliefs that should be respected. Everyone is different, and what may work for one person may not work for someone else. We each have to be true to ourselves. If we all come together in love and understanding here then we are all welcome to express our opinions and insights, even if others do not agree.

When we post we agree to be respectful of others and to be respectful even if we disagree with another's view. Your posts are always welcome.

To Cassie,

Thank you.

Loong

Loong, please don't feel like that. Please keep posting. Some of us are just sensitive about how new or shy members may perceive their welcome here (due to past forum experiences). We don't want anyone to be afraid to post. Including you.

Personally I don't think you were recruiting. You are asking good questions. It just takes a while to get the balls rolling sometimes - this kind of communication is fraught with misunderstands sine we can't be face to face and see how kindly things might have been meant.

Jilly and Cassie are exactly right. Every person is welcome, and every person's opinion should be respected and encouraged. So we should avoid statements such as "These are my sources. What are yours?" Opinions should not need sources. Every person should be able to state what they feel, for whatever reason they may feel it. All opinions should be equally valid and appreciated.

We do have a new Spirituality editor - Debbie Grejdus - and she is the one responsible for making fresh threads and guiding the discussion. Soon she will be through initial training and taking on that task. I'm sure we will have some wonderful discussions going forward!

And just so you all know......Debbie Grejdus is my real name, so you know who I am already Thanks for the introduction, Lisa!

Debbie.....aka Cassie67

Debbie, a huge warm welcome to you as our new Spirituality editor. It is good to have you here. I so enjoy reading your posts.

Best wishes to you going forward.

Loong, If you quit posting then one of us will be absent from expression. You know that this is not the answer. My Buddhist friends are some of the most rock-solid people that I know. They have love and understanding that goes beyond mine at times when I get a little too severe on myself. They have the ability to bring back a balance when things seem a little to flighty or confused.

For me, I had to learn how to express things in posting in more of a seeking or questioning mode. I found for myself that I am not an expert poster as some of the more seasoned people are on here and had to learn how to post in a beckoning method instead of a "telling" method. Does that make sense?? I like you have a strong personality. Because I am a Taurus the Bull I must examine the content of what I speak or write as so many others are of a profoundly gentler nature than I am and I will not offend them. We don't ever mean to offend, it is just the nature of a strong person to express themself in that manner. It takes practice and patience. You are a good friend Loong!! dave

To Dave,
Thank you for your post.For the last 12 years ,i have been posting on various kinds of groups.You see I am used with pople that open up,discuss,tell whom they are.What they are,what their views are for real,like you said in your post .Here it seems that
everyone must be taken with velvet gloves.The last place I was for 6 to 7 years,was because the posts were getting heavy for gentle me.People do not know me .I am a gentle person trying to share his knowledge with others.But it does not work that way here.
Thank you for your loving kindness.
_/\_
loong
normand joly

Loong, If I may help with something here if you will allow me. I don't think that velvet gloves is the answer here either. These ladies are very deep thinkers and don't underestimate their ability to handle some down-right rough stuff in dealing with others on these spirituality sites. I think that we're all getting to know each other and that is paramount to communication. I feel that the reason we are low-key here is that in todays world we have enough pressure and division and we all need a place to come to relax in a trust with each other. Things can get heated yet we need to allow others to assist us when we might need some help.

The way that I feel is that I don't give a rip if my voice is heard here as much as just having a family of friends that I can count on when the chips are down. There are not a lot of places to go to today that is neutral ground for deeper expression.

You are most welcome here and we would certainly miss your input. Peace to you

Debbie, Congrats on becoming the new editor!!!! As open as you are on the topic of spirituality you will be SO excellent here!!! dave