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[quote=Sandy / Cocktails Editor] Your authentic self? [/quote] I agree we always tend to become someone we not for fear of loosing the next person or for fear that the will not like you>But the question is than who is really the one that that person is in a relationship with because he will fall in love with the person you pretend to be.And many times you are unable to continue being that person. [url=http://www.livespace.co.za]Online dating[/url]

The secret I have learn't at age 53, and YES I have a boyfriend :), is to LET him be HIM and expect him to let ME be me.

Too many times we spend precious time wishing or nagging the other person to change when we need to ACCEPT them for who they are or hit the exit door.

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Getting over the threat of rejection is a big one, especially if there are things on your "resume" that could push someone away (kids, substance abuse, psychological disorders/disabilities, etc...)

Be honest, be yourself, have fun, be courteous and respectful, and accept the other person for who they are. If there is anything on this list that you just can't do, then it is time to move on.

Sometimes we pretend to be someone we are not, to make ourselves interesting, but why? One day, the true you will come out - what happenes then? Those stupid jokes you laughed at, you won't want to pretend to find funny anymore. You'll find it hard to put up with annoying habits and you'll tire of not being yourself.

Best that we enter into the relationship as our true authentic selves and let the chips fall where they may! You might be a lot happier in the long run.

it's true, but not all people can do that.

I agree with a lot of the posters! However, I think that in the dating scene, as I knew it, love will find its way if you are truly yourself. You should be able to tell your partner that you "don't agree", or "you dislike what he said".

What it comes down to is integrity! Don't pretend! And down the road it's up to you with your self-esteem and what are you doing here with this guy? Is it making you happy?

Sorry ladies, went off a little there. Hey, but it's true!