BellaOnline Forums Career Unemployment Reading: Never Get a Real Job

Monica, I love your approach to life. The professional gambler quote is hilarious.

Hi Dina, I like this. I think, in my case, I got so reliant on my job, I just expected it to take care of me. Forever.

If we always have the idea in the back of our mind though that things change, we can plan ahead. Maybe get the 15 year mortgage instead of the 30 year. Start that savings account, and don't go crazy with credit cards. That was my problem. I worked, made great money, and just figured that's how it would always be.

My husband does very well in his 8-5 job. He's not the kind of person who could be self employed. So I'm very grateful for his "regular" job. For sure!!

I agree. The problem is, I mean I graduated, not long ago, and then the post grad life just scared me. I had no idea where I should go and although a job is technically not that secure, it provides one with a sense of "I'm doing something". Specially before starting a family I guess.

What advice would you give? What would you have done if you had the chance to plan ahead?

Not all jobs are evil. I've had some pretty fun ones in high school and college and I've had many in my life and at times they are exactly what you need and I totally get the feeling you're talking about Dina "I'm doing something" and paying my bills!

If I had the chance to plan ahead I would have focused on finding something that made me happy instead of trying to find a job for security which was always my issue.

All the jobs I've had since graduating from college were 100% for security but I did learn a lot. The weird thing is they led me back to what I'm doing now which is writing, running websites, and having fun.

If I had to do it over I would never work in these jobs again

marketing director at credit union
graphic design for exporting company
personal trainer at Bally's
fitness manager at big name health club (refuse to name it)
personal trainer at small health club
weight loss counselor at diet company
sales associat at treadmill store
personal trainer at small private studio

I would have just stuck with fitness writing and running my own fitness therapy business from the start but I can't stand bosses. That's an issue for me that isn't an issue for many. Figure out what type of work situation works best for you from the start and you'll find what makes you happy much faster. Took me 18 years to figure it out so don't worry it all comes together eventually

Thanks for the advice. That's what I'm trying to do by writing about fashion which sounds crazy for many of my friends because they would never do anything for free, much less writing.

I hate bosses too I agree, but some are better than others. You just have to think you will be a boss one day (hopefully). Well, I guess whatever works for us and makes us happy must be right. You're right, it's never okay to get a job and feel miserable just to pay the bills, you need to get creative.

Hi Deanna:

Thanks for the compliment about my site - it is my passion!

I use to be the Bella Writing Editor and had to resign due to having too much going on right now. And I should be in the bed right now getting some sleep in preparation for my graveyard shift 11pm to 7am tonight(lol).

I am so GLAD to see that other folks are finally contributing to this site. I just found out a few weeks ago that they lost their unemployment editor. I am sure someone will step into her place soon.

Okay, let me go get my zzzz's

Hey Dina

You can do anything. I've seen people run super successful sites on doll clothing or men's fashion advice so if they can do that then you can certainly be successful at giving fun fashion advice.

A girl I met a while back runs an entire site on jeans. It's one of the highest ranks sites on the internet and very successful too. Check it out. Jeans and Accessories

The trick is finding your niche. If you need help with this let me know.

I will certainly try that! I just need more time to get more writing and stuff. I'm sure I can go to you for help, I always learn from all the editors here. You ladies are awesome

If I could do it over I would open a savings account and not run up a bunch of credit.

I liked Monica's list, so I'm going to make my own LOL!

I wouldn't have gone to work for the mortgage company. I would have lived at home a couple more years, got some fun job and moved out with a room mate or something. I then would have started honing my craft.

Of course, if I did that, would I be saying right now, "well, I would have gone to college." Then if I did that... who knows LOL!!

Maybe it's better for me to realize I'm where I am now because of my experiences And for good or ill, they helped me grow.

So, yeah Dina, I'd just open a savings account LOL!!!

Angela, I hope you're having a good sleep!