I really believe, in the long run. Traditions overtake circumstances. By circumstance I mean finances, and where you are at in the grand scheme of things. Yes it is a big day, yes it needs to be fairytale. I don't believe material things make it fairytale. I do believe if you have a vision you an re-create it within your own budget though, and create your own fairytale. A white flower at $2000 is a white flower at $1.00. That is my belief. Just two cent worth. I plan some very high budget weddings, I also do equally beautiful no budget weddings. Its all in the presentation.