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Gotta tell this story, we are still shocked about it! Our friends came over for a visit with their two kids, one is two, the other a 6 months old. The two year old is in that incredibly charming state of development in which she screams for no reason at an ear splitting pitch and mimics everything she hears. I just love that *sarcasm* Anyway, she has been picking up curse words from her mom who lets them slip every now and then. We are all talking and the two year old is screaming over us, which Im getting better at tuning out, but at this moment, she is screaming right in her moms face "Youre a B****! Youre a B*****!" My eyes got very wide when I realized what she was saying . My boyfriend (another CF person) who is studying to be a teacher, puts on his teacher voice and says loudly to her "NO! You do NOT use that word! Its a bad word!" The two year old completley froze. (obviously mommy and daddy never raise voices!) Anyway, the two year old didnt freak, just walked to mommy. Mommy on the other hand was VERY shocked and proceeded to soothe two year old (who didnt need it) saying "its OK, uncle still loves you!" Then Mommy made my BF tell the two year old he loved her and hug her to make her feel better Now, what the hell is that???? My BF and I coudnt get over this reaction!I love my friends, they are fun, great people, but as parents?? eeehhhhhhh And I dont need an inner eye to be able to see these kids are probably going to have some issues later in life......lol

I like your attitude dianalove !! Excellent... your BF, Connie my Love and I hope can become good buddies !!! You just experienced the difference between compassion and sympathy. Compassion is Disciplined Love which is designed the one so chastened to a higher level of character which your BF tried to execute. Sympathy is a sick syrupy, " It's ok to indulge your nasty weak yuck "... then they force Uncle to do the same.

amazing..sounds familiar..when my wifes cousin moved to our town, they have 3 girls..two are twins..they had no respect for our rules in our house..it took a while for them to learn what not is allowed in our house, but they did learn. lucky for those kids.. it seems these days parents just want to give kids every opportunity to learn new things even at others expense.its as if its not PC if you tell kids no. i like to say...the kid we didnt have is lucky.

Actually yes, I have. I have two nieces. For Mother's Day last year my older sister came home to visit and we all went out to dinner at a nice, local restaurant. Not only was my 4-year-old niece very ill-mannered and loud, she was up out of her seat and running around inside the restaurant to boot! She even went so far as to sit with strangers in the restaurant and poke at their food. She also has a severe speech problem that her mother denies the existence of, which causes her to often lose her temper because people can't understand her when she speaks. I'm probably the only one who can interpret most of what she says, which makes me very worried. She would try to have conversations with people in the restaurant while invading their privacy and their meals and then yell at them when they didn't understand what she was trying to say. All the while the baby is crying, my sister is screaming at her to be quiet while chewing at the same time, Mom and my younger sister are chasing after my eldest niece and I'm shrinking down in my chair, hoping that dinner wouldn't take as long as it had to. It was horrible. I can't imagine having kids of my own, but if I did there would be no way in he** that they would act like that.