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Wow . . . heck of a story. When I met my boyfriend he reminded me of a dream I had a couple times years ago about being in a relationship. No bubble bath but he has the same energy or vibe that this guy had in my dream. This was 5 years before I met my boyfriend, then when I met him I felt really sure of something. Our relationship today is stellar. Maybe the guide to our soulmate is through your dreams!

I met my Soul Mate 3 months ago. We met for the 1st time for a business meeting. We knew from the moment that we met that we loved each other. A few days later we told each other that we loved each other. 7 days after we met, he asked me to marry him and I said yes. We saw each other the next week, but I haven't seen him since.

We made a vow to be exclusive and to wait until what I call "the manifestation of us." We've texted each other. He texted me in Nov and said that he promised that we would be together soon, but here it is Jan 2011 and I'm still without him.

I believe that we will spend the rest of our lives together and I've vowed to be true to him until we can be together, but this waiting is killing me.

It's like, I was completely content before I met him, but once I met him, now my life is not complete without him.

I've never been the type of woman who felt she needed a man in order to be complete, but this man has captured a place in my heart where only he and God resides.

I'm frightened by the very thought of our not being together, now that we've met.

I Still looking for one ...

I believe it is so important, no matter how deep the love for each is, that each person remains complete withing themselves. It is like two pillars that hold up a building. There is space between and each has their own strength to support the building (relationship) yet work together to hold it up. If one cannot stand alone, then the relationship is weakened. If one falls, the other must carry on to sustain the memory, the joy of what was.

Laugh, thanks for sharing your story. It is so wonderful how he came into your life and would not give up. He was not pushy, just patient, for he knew you were the one he is supposed to be with.

I've more or less given up on finding a true "soul mate" unfortunately... I think for some of us who are very independent minded, a soul mate might not exist... think I shall find him or her only in my dreams!

I have.

I think a great deal of weighing that decision has to do with your surroundings, history together, responsibilities and timing, especially.

I think you could choose to leave, but karmically, it feels like it could end up bringing a selfish or less "whole" energy. You'd always have that elephant in the room.

However, say the comitted partner you're with is self-preoccupied themselves, treats you poorly or offers very little emotional support, so basically you're in a relationship alone, by yourself. Then staying would present a less than fulfilling relationship all its own and little by little you begin losing so much more than what you would have gained by leaving.

Can you have good soul mates and bad soul mates?

There can be a "bad" or negative person you have to deal with -- but "soul mates" are always supportive and loving with each other.

So, my belief is "no, one does not have a bad soul mate."