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Eleise,

I've read many different definitions for the term. To me (which is what matters to me) =) it is that ultimate soul mate connection with another.

Yes, I do understand this guy keeps showing up for a reason, I'm really not sure of that reason. It's obviously lessons I need to learn "from afar" because we haven't 'verbally' communicated in 3 years.

It may be something HE is needing to learn as well, he's the one who does the 'hard staring'.

Truthfully, I'm at the 'end' with this, it's almost becoming annoying to run into him everywhere I turn. It never fails, if I go out, chances are, I will more than likely see him. I've actually spent the past month trying to avoid him (trying to work it out in my mind) so I don't run into him, that works just the opposite of my intended goal, it seems I run into him more.

I do not feel drawn to him like I did in the past, it has fizzled and faded for me, but crossing paths with him has become more frequent. And the intensity of his gaze has increased as well.

I'm exhausted with it all, he'll have to figure it out on his own, I'm done with it.

lol

Are you certain he's not following you in some sense?

I'm curious what would happen if you weren't just to stop whatever you were doing and just go up to him and say something like, "We have to quit meeting like this..."

I'm sarcastic like that, so it's just me

Eleise,

Honestly, I don't think he's following me and I'm not following him. Things are just working out this way. If I see him, I will go the opposite direction but that usually proves to be less effective. Immediately after I intentionally avoid him, I'm thrown into his path with more 'force'.

I'm not trying to talk to him, I'm trying to push it away. I'm tired of "dancing" around this thing.. whatever it is.

It's weird though, the harder I push it away, the more I see him. I'm exhausted with it all... I haven't got the energy to put into it anymore.

And the real frustration of it all is..... I can't figure out what it is I need to learn from this guy...?!?

Why not just let be what's going on?

Kind of like those stray plants in the garden...One summer I quit trying to stop them all from growing and pulling them all and just let them all go free.

All the plants I planted by hand? They were ok but the hardiest of them all were the ones I hadn't done a thing with. Whatever was going on with them, they cultivated through the years what the new ones couldn't.

Maybe fighting what keeps surfacing again and again is redundant?

I know you are right... perhaps 'letting it go' is the answer.

I can't control it anyway, not sure why I fight so hard.

Ya, I know what you mean. And I don't know why it's so hard to take your own good advice sometimes?

On the one hand, things don't always just work out, you have to make them work out. On the other hand, the sun rises and falls without any extra help on our part, too, lol. So, trying to control that "inivisible grid" especially when it comes to opposition and attraction, is sometimes like trying to keep the rain from falling. It pretty much already knows what it's doing.

With me, though I'll get flashes of people and situations, even reasoning behind a person's actions, when it comes to lessons something is trying to show me, I don't always fair that well, I think because I can't see something I haven't learned quite yet.

I have at times run into people i don't even know, but recognize and after a while we would just kind of chuckle and say "Hi" and shake our heads. It's not that big a deal, because as the track record stands, I'll be running into them again, naturally.

In general, once we do make more conversation, we'll both end up saying something like, "I swear I know you from somewhere??" and go from there.

I like your statement about 'the sun rises and falls without any extra help on our part'. How perfect for this situation, that I just stand back and let it 'rise and fall' on it's own.

I use to believe in soul mates. Like someone was meant for me. It was a wonderful dream to have.

I think in some ways it can seem like just a dream. But it really does exist.

I think to attract it, though it may seem odd, but you almost have to have the equivelant of sincere love for yourself in order to get the same thing back. Even then though, it'snot a guarantee. I do think that's why so many rebound relationships fail though.

It's exciting to meet or find an opportunity to replace a painful relationship that might have or may be ending but at the same time I swear when you're feeling "empty" it attracts every jerk in the free world.

When you're feeling loved and confident by your own means, that seems to attract respect and someone who's drawn naturally to your core being. Those things can't help but grow of a sound foundation. There's a synchronicity, in the long run.

i think you do get hit on more when you are dating someone then when your not. I don't have problems with that but would like to get married someday, you know?