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I think my stress for this week relates to the constant mess around me. I think I need to focus more energy on keeping things clean, which will then let me be more efficient and effective when I do everything else.

Lisa, what besides books are your main mess categories?

Probably clothes. Bob refuses to put away clothes so we have piles of dirty clothes in the living room, and piles of clean clothes in the bedroom. Roomba in the living room hasn't run in weeks because the floor isn't clear enough to let him run.

OK so clothes. I can work on that.

Hmmm. So what would be the root problem here? We know Bob has too many clothes, but what is the reason? Does it make him feel emotionally secure to have a wide variety, somehow, like a security blanket? (i can be like that with books)

Or does he hate folding and putting things away, or hate doing laundry?

Or is he preoccupied with other things and oblivious to the mess and excess of clothes?

Alternatively maybe he feels he can find what he likes to wear best by having the clothes in view instead of put away. People who are creative sometimes can be 'out of sight, out of mind' with their stuff, so having things in view - like on hooks, bins and shelves, is better than hidden in closets and drawers.

If we can figure out the root issue, it will be better than trying to make a temporary fix.

I have cleaned up the living room! Hurrah! I did a happy dance in the middle of the room

He hates putting away things. To be honest I do too, I just give in more quickly when my pile gets fairly big. He never reaches that point.

He is large right now. He can't give away the large clothes because he wears them. But he doesn't want to give away the other smaller clothes because he thinks he'll fit into them soon. And to be honest if our gym activities hold up, he will. So the key will be to promptly donate the larger clothes as soon as he doesn't fit into them any more.

Lisa, have you and Bob worked on the clothes overload?

This week my stress will be normal life stuff! YAY! lol

I will pay the bills, get my tire changed and head to Sedona to pick up Faramir (she was being fostered while nursing kitten batch 2). And I might adopt one of her kittens to replace the spot of love i had for William. (whom i am still not ready to bury).

Moving into a new house.

Yikes, Rebecca - a stress I know well. Good luck!

Good luck with the move Rebecca - it can be stressful, but also very rewarding as you settle everything into its new home!

Jilly - I'm so glad your stresses are normal stresses that can be handled in quiet relaxation! You should celebrate!!

We just made settlement on a new house also. We are downsizing and moving to another state. I think my hubby is the king of the pack rats. lol

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