Betz,
I don't have a problem with pot---it's just that the guy in question smokes everyday, and seems to be able to afford it even when he can't afford basic things for the child he already has. I just think it's a luxury item, especially in these times, and he does it every day. I'm sorry I wasn't very clear about that. And the other friend I mentioned who did it everyday...well, she was pregnant. Maybe not the end of the world, but still...not the healthiest choice there is.
I don't criticize M, and I know it probably doesn't come across that way from my post. The reason I posted my complaints here is because I actually have held my tongue for so long, and I wanted to vent in a place where people might empathize. I also wanted some input as to whether I should give her a reality check. All signs point to no.
I know it seems silly for me to lament the loss of a friendship with someone who makes choices like these, but we were 10 yo when we met. We had been friends before any boyfriends or other serious choices were ever on the scene. The boyfriends and choices have gotten worse very slowly, too. It hasn't been this terrible for years or anything.
Thanks everybody for the input! I'm just going to let the relationship alone for a while, and hope things get better, but expect that they probably won't.
