BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids Single, and don't want kids?

Hi! I'm new to this site and am SO glad to found this forum. I am a single 27/f and am having a hard time finding men who also do not want kids. Is this forum also for singles that don't want kids? Or is there a separate one for singles? Thanks! Julie

i'm single and am on here. so far, no one has asked me to go. but i was here before when i was married and came back after the divorce.

as for finding a man who doesn't want kids..... that's a bit difficult. i dated a few guys, and it seemed like they thought i was weird that i didn't have children. but i was fortunate and last year met a wonderful man who is single and is settled. he doesn't want children or marriage, and that's fine with me.

Believe me folks you do not have to be married to access this forum. All people who are child free for what ever reason in any form of relationship or not as the case may be are welcome.

this forum aims to give a voice to all people who are Children Free. Not to debate the choice or justify decisions but to be nuturing, supportive and kind to one another. Thats not to say that at times there will be comments which others disagree on. Thats fine and human after all. We value and respect each other and write in a respectful manner even when we disagree.
So welcome on board cruisethe7seas and holles hopefully you will stay and go nowhere!

Yes, this forum is really welcoming. I have a child and, as holles put it it, so far no one told me to go :-))

I was also single for a long time hoping to find someone to remain child-free with. Unfortunately I had to give up, but I relate to people with no desire to have children more than with the mommies that surround me.

Hi there and welcome. You are welcome... you and your two year old niece, if she can happen to type and is looking into being childfree!!!!! Okay not sure if that works but it was a joke.

I'm not married either, although I was when I joined the site. As for finding cf guys, I think it can also depend on where you live and what you do.

I live in a city and work in the arts, so I haven't had too much difficulty finding cf friends and mates.

Well, I'm married and have 5 kids. I've yet to be booted off! I don't want to speak for other mods, but the specific forums aren't meant only for people whose lifestyle falls within the certain category covered by the site. I welcome all religions (or none) at LDS Families, and really value the opinions and experiences of others. I've posted in ethnic beauty even though my ethnicity is not what was intended when the stie and forum were born, and I've dropped in on Mexican Food even though I in no way resemble a burritto!

For me the point is that there is a lot of value in hearing about any subject from a variety of angles. This forum is clearly set up as one not intended to debate the wisdom or rightness of not having children, but to support and nurture those who do not. I would imagine a single-no-kidder would be just as welcome to seek support and nurturance. If I wanted suport, however, I'd probably be better to seek it in anotehr forum, but I hope my responding to someone who posts here would not be deemed intrusive or out of line.

If a married-no-kidder posts a topic here looking for insight, I may have a pov that can be of value even though I now am swimming in children. A person who is single no kids could offer a valuable insight from her perspective, and so on.

I understand the need for the automated note. When I was child-free there were no shortage of people-- strangers and acquaintences-- who felt very free to share their opinions of my life. (That we were struggling with infertility wasn't their blank business, and when they discovered we were trying to have kids I had no use for their sudden sympathy and approval. I took to calling myself child-free out of defiance.) For some reason people feel quite justified in interrogating and advising others on the subject of how many children they do/do not/should/should not have.

I don't have an answer to whether this sites is for singles who don't want kids, but I wanted to reach out and let you know that it is possible to find a man that accepts and respects your decision. I, like you, am 27, and don't want children. I ended my last relationship for many reasons, but mainly because my partner genuinely wanted children. At one point I actually said to my mom, " I guess I need to find someone in their late 40 who has already had kids." That was two years ago, I am now engaged to a sensitive, handsome, and thoughtful YOUNGER man who is very accepting of my stance on motherhood. He's out there...somewhere. Keep an open mind....:)

I'm a childfree man, 30, professional, not ugly, kindhearted. On the other end of the spectrum from yourselves, I can't find a CF woman! I'm OK with that right now, I've just come out of a long term relationship with a woman who was most definitely not CF in her intentions. I'm concentrating on my many other interests, hopefully I'll meet someone along the way who understands and agrees with my stance on child bearing, if I don't then so be it, I'll never be without good friends! Pete

Pete, where the heck were you when I was single? lol.