Dear Arlyn, you're not far away from my age! I've never felt any serious urge to have kids either, and I don't think I ever will. I can understand the desire to be included, and no longer "invisible" - but the truth is, having a kid doesn't help that. There are so many mothers, women who planned to have children, who just don't have their own lives any more because their life has to revolve around the children. And everyone and their cat, dog and chicken has plenty of unwanted advice for you, from the moment of conception on.
It sounds like your marriage is fine as it is and that children would make you miserable. You can never be sure you won't have regrets. But why should you listen to the opinions and desires of people who, no matter how much they profess that they want what's best for you, don't seem to be able to hear you?
