Unfortunately it seems like people are always going to be judgmental and have the need to decide one way or the other is better. (must often their way is better) I find this in life with more than just the decision to be CF or not. And unfortunately (again) it is very unlikely that we will ever change the that fact that the majority of people do judge others. I have been working very hard to not succumb to the "good opinion" of others. Because quite honestly it is only "good" to them. It helps me to remember that I will never ever be able to please all the people all the time. So I should focus on pleasing the person the I have the most invested in: ME. Again this could be seen to others as a selfish unsacrificing way to live, but ultimately if something is that important to me and I need to sacrifice for it I will. But it's up to me to decide to do that, and no one else has the right to pressure me to make a decision or make me feel bad because it is not in line with their beliefs. It's tough to remember this everyday, and I do have days where I start to feel like I need to step in line with the "majority" but I like to think of those as momentary lapses of insanity. :) I really appreciate this group. I am very glad I found it.