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Hi
My niece is getting married this year, there maybe a decision to make the service child free with a creche for those attending the wedding breakfast. What do people feel about child free weddings?

Elaine Dayton
marriednokids editor

Kids do not belong at weddings. It's an adult day PERIOD.
They get bored 'cause they're not getting all the attention.

It's the bride and grooms day. Kids usually start running around, crying, screaming, spilling food and drinks, etc. Who needs it?!

Just MHO.

I think that most of the time children are welcomed at the wedding ceremony, but not the party afterwards.Because lots of people do have children, I would imagine some guests might take offence if they're told not to bring them.
I think that only badly behaved children whose parents can't control them would start screaming and running around.
It's up to the individuals getting married though, it is their day, if they want children involved - great. If not - great.

I've always felt it should be up to the bride and groom. If they want kids at the wedding, fine; if not, fine. When a very good friend got married, my son was 17 months old. I asked her what she wanted, because it was her wedding. She said my son was invited, too. My dh and I took turns walking him out of the church (he was blowing raspberries, for which I apologized afterwards -- she laughed and said they thought it was the ventilation!), so he wasn't disruptive to the occasion. He was fine at the reception, too.

I do think that people with children should respect the wishes of the bride and groom, though, and not assume that their child is welcome because they go everywhere with that child.

Oh -- I also brought my son to my cousin's wedding, and without asking. But, we didn't know he was our son yet, as I was 5 months pregnant... leaving him home would have been tricky... ;-)

Whoo boy. I really teed off a lot of people by banning kids at my wedding. Some people brought them anyway, which very very very much bothered those who didn't. And some didn't even come at all since they could not find babysitters. Argh! This is a touchy one.

Ms. A, that is a hoot. You had me giggling. I guess you could be excused for that one....

I had no kids at my wedding too, it actually didn't seem to be a problem with people, then again, my wedding was in the eveing, so I am sure noone wanted to have nasty tired kids around. My sister brought hers tho' but I don't remember noticing them... however, I was irritated that she did not respect my wishes... after many years, its turned out she never does... oh well

My wedding was a whole weekend vacation out in the country, so people did want to bring the kids.

I just don't really like them around. :-( And it was MY wedding, after all...

WHOLE WEEKEND?!?!!? Nice one...except my first night would have been unbearable, with people around

As mentioned in other replies, it should be left up to the bride and groom, but in my opinion, it would be inappropriate to not invite children to the wedding. Take my wedding for instance. I'm a very easy-going person with everyone, so I certainly approved of having children at our wedding. On the other hand, my husband didn't want it at all -- he made it clearly known that he didn't want any "screaming babies" at our wedding. Some couples from church with young children found out that he said this and was bitterly offended. Those families didn't even want to come to my wedding after all that. One young family came to the wedding with their newborn and sat in the very back of the church, probably because they felt that the baby would be "disruptive" to us. All of this left me with a really bad feeling. My parents were angry AT ME about it, even though I reminded them that I wasn't the one who said it.

In short, you should be able to trust that parents will bring their kids to weddings and keep them quiet and disciplined.