Well, I can't speak for every man.
But I'm a man, and I know what I'm attracted to:
A girl who is fun, classy, sexy, and believes in EQUALITY-
Not walking behind me or in front of me, but side by side.
A girl who knows that a man can mean a lot more to her than just being a cool guy or a cool friend.
A girl who's not vindictive, controlling, or vengeful.
A girl who knows that there are men that exist out there who are looking for and need an emotional connection too.
A girl who is genuine enough to realize and understand that when she feels bad, indifferent, or not satisfied with a man, it's ONLY because in REALITY that man isn't the right fit for her, NOT because of what he is, or what he looks like.
A girl who believes that a person is capable of changing for the better.
A girl who doesn't believe in social and sexual hierarchy when it comes to relationships.
A girl who is looking for a responsible guy who is also dependable and reliable.
A girl who is confident to never worry about the threat of other girls.
A girl who is absolutely 100% dead-set against the idea of cheating on anybody for any reason.
A girl who always tries to do the right thing.
A girl who knows how to loosen up and have fun, and not against things like getting high once in a while.
A girl who will respect me for me, who I am on the inside, and never belittles or demeans me for my faults, imperfections, and mistakes.
A girl who never puts up with being disrespected.
A girl who knows that not all men only care about themselves.
A girl who knows that not all men just want sex.
A girl who knows that there are men who can be trusted.
A girl who knows that not all men are womanizers.
A girl who knows that a man is capable of fulfilling her needs, and loving her more completely than anyone else.
A girl who doesn't put up with controlling guys, but appreciates when a man can take control of a situation.
A girl who rarely to never smokes cigarettes.
A girl who knows that a man is capable of treating her with honor and respect.
A girl who knows how to connect with other girls on an emotional level with strong boundaries.
A girl who wants to learn and make efforts to be able to truly let go of deep issues of anger, hurt, and resentment that may have been caused by someone close to them, like a bad parent who has hurt them and/or let them down.
A girl who believes in true love.
A girl who believes in honesty.
A girl who believes in forgiveness and second chances.
A girl who believes that most (if not all) people are inherently good.
A girl who is always as good as her word.
A girl who knows when to take life seriously, and when not to.
A girl who believes words can be meaningful, but not as much as a person's actions.
A girl who makes the effort to recognize how her past may have affected her presently, and possibly in the future. It should never be dwelled-upon, but also should never be buried deep down either, because it will only cause more problems if it's ignored or put off to the side. That is, until it is faced and dealt with in ways that are healthy and productive based on love and forgiveness.
A girl who by nature is sweet, kind, and understanding.
A girl who appreciates a man who can be a man from a woman's point of view, especially when it comes to how he treats her.
A girl who isn't selfish, and doesn't always think of herself.
A girl who doesn't interpret my sensitive and feminine side as weakness. Because unlike most guys, I'm in touch with it.
And when appropriate, again unlike most guys, I'm not afraid to express myself either.
A girl who appreciates a guy who can show his hardcore street smarts and toughness if and when he needs to.
A girl who appreciates a guy who can be both the strong-silent type as well as the fun-loving type who enjoys a good party and the company of other good people too.
A girl who knows how to deal with her issues in healthy and productive ways, instead of burying them way deep inside of herself, and masking them with a false sense of security and/or negative coping mechanisms.
A girl who will give me the chance to make her feel as comfortable and as safe as she possibly can feel.
A girl who's okay with feeling completely in the moment when we're together.
A girl who always makes decisions through her better judgment, logic, reason, and at the same time, also follows her heart.
A girl who realizes that she always has the power to choose a lifestyle for herself that is much happier and much more fulfilling and complete, no matter what and how much she has been through.
A girl who knows when it's appropriate and safe to show her soft compassionate and vulnerable side.
A girl who knows that when things are one-sided and/or when that back-and-forth pushing and pulling is experienced in a "relationship," that is never a healthy thing.
A girl who values life-work balance.
A girl who takes care of her health.
A girl who will pick me up emotionally as much as I pick her up, which is whenever needed.
A girl who's an open and honest communicator.
A girl who likes to be spontaneous as much as she likes to plan ahead.
A girl who believes in monogamy without monotony.
A girl who is truly her own person, and not just claims to be.
A girl who is in REAL touch with her femininity and sexuality, and therefore no longer struggles with her true identity.
A girl who will tell me what her real needs are some time at the beginning of the relationship, instead of playing those "lets see if he's worthy by how well he can read my mind and figure me out" kind of games.
A girl who knows that both chasing somebody and being chased by somebody while dating or in a relationship are both equally just as bad, and always spell a recipe for disaster.
A girl who's just as excited to see or talk to me, as I am with her.
A girl who likes to get out of the house and do things, but also knows how to relax and chill too.
A girl who likes to experience new and interesting things.
A girl who likes to dance.
A girl who always respects herself, and expects to be respected by others.
A girl who doesn't confuse sex for her emotional needs, for no person (male or female) should use sex and sexual activities to help them determine or figure out who they are.
A girl who isn't hypocritical, and who never judges.
A girl who's not afraid to question everything, but also knows when it's time to just listen, and/or let things go.
A girl who needs her space, and recognizes that I need mine too.
A girl who's caring, trustworthy, warm and affectionate, but not clingy.
A girl who doesn't believe in being treated like someone's "property."
A girl with a sense of humor, and likes to laugh.
A girl who is willing to work through whatever hard times may bring, and give love a real chance.
A girl who will fight for me as much as I fight for her, for I would not only die for her, but I will fight to live for her.
A girl who believes that sex isn't just about sex, but about love and fulfillment.
A girl who recognizes a good thing, especially when it's practically right in front of her.
A girl who knows that she can always feel comfortable with being herself entirely and completely when she's with me.
A girl who's open to idea of creativity, passion, and letting go, in order to feel fulfillment when it comes to intimacy.
A girl, who in life, really knows who she is, where she wants to be, what she needs, and what's truly best for herself.
A girl who knows what a REAL relationship with a man is really all about; it's where even through difficult times, there's still an overall COMPLETE connection that is truly the most happy and fulfilling.
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So I guess I'm not looking for a girl, but a (REAL) WOMAN...
The most complete and fulfilling relationships are between a man and a woman who are the right fit for each other. So truth be told, I actually do still have a lot of heart and love to give that is COMPLETE.
Last edited by forcegx7; 01/30/10 11:57 PM.
