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For all emotionally abused woman

Skinnycow, Here it is....Please read this!

Here is an article for any woman who thinks she's being emotionally abused. Please print and read this over and over.

It made me wake up!

I haven't read through all these responses but may I just say, I was raised in a family with similar parental issues. I don't mean to put you under any pressure, but you might like to look into your children getting help to cope with this. If he is not willing to change then for the sake of your children, I would walk out of this one. My father was abusive towards my mom, and had an affair with a close relative. My mum stuck it out though, because she felt that us children needed to be raised in a balanced set up i.e. Mom AND Dad, what she didn't realise is how this damaged our confidence, and because I was so young, I could never quite comprehend what exactly these things meant. I'll spare you the details, but long story cut short, I ended in couselling, peeling of layers and layers of hatred. It does nobody any good at all, and once you have the responsibility of children, you have to look out for them as a priority. They did not make these choices, so you have to make choices to preotect them. I really hope you find a solution promptly... tears come to my eyes as I remember those days.....

Has anyone read the article? Just click on "For all emotionally abused woman" underlined above. Oops... just saw my typo.

Yes! I did read this article. Wow, important info. It's eerie how emotional abusers fly way below the radar and thus evade detection. Sometimes, they don't realize what they are doing! And refuse to believe that it IS abusive behavior!

The sad part is that all their manipulative and hurtful acts are wrapped in "love" and "affection" or a false aura of "caring." It is no wonder why so many vulnerable women step into their traps and can't get out.

The only concern I have about the article--and I love the raw honesty and passion in it--is that it speaks about the pathological emotional abuser without addressing the emotional abuse that gets dished out by people less malicious. Some women might say, "Well, my husband isn't THAT bad. He's not an emotional abuser!" when in fact, a "not-so-bad" spouse could very well engage in emotionally abusive behavior.

Many times, people are simply ill-equipped to communicate to others in a healthy, fair and effective manner. Sometimes, they resort to manipulative means out of desperation, lack of a better role model or past negative patterns. They can be taught to see the effects of their behavior and how to communicate in more productive ways.

However, the woman who posted this article obviously had firsthand experience with more than one abuser. She mentioned "one of her exes" so she probably had a pattern of choosing emotional abusers and finally had enough. Good for her!

Lesson well learned. It's good to pass along this valuable knowledge! Thanks!