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That's a super cute dog Kimmie.

Thank you and to think, I used to get all the compliments about being pretty and now, its Lucky taking all the attention. He does it all the time. I never let my husband walk him....hmmmm. Can you imagine how many women would say, "cute dog". (smile)

I go 21 days without whining easily each month. It's days 22 through 28 that give me problems.

LOL dmichelle, very cute!

I just finished reading a book by the Dalai Lama - "Becoming Enlightened" - which I got a lot of interesting information from. He gives a lot of insight into why finding a path of "not complaining" can be so healthy for you and for those around you.

I understand your challenge, Jilly I was out shopping with Bob last night and he got very frustrated with the sales clerk, to the point that one made a comment about Bob needing some patience. I held my tongue but when we got out to the car I suggested that the better way to deal with the issue would be for me to write the store from home, and explain what they need to fix, vs snapping at the clerk who 1) won't fix the process anyway and 2) is now grumpy too. So that letter-of-suggestions is on my to-do list today

Which reiterates a comment I have on this. "Do not complain" does not mean you accept problems! It means you address them in a fruitful way

What a great idea, changing a bracelet from wrist to wrist. I like that idea much better than a rubber band that you snap! Ouch! We all could use a little more positivity spread around. You are what you think and I know I could use more positive thoughts. I'm going to give it a try. Wish me luck.

And Kimmie, that IS an adorable dog

Welcome Margo! Yes the bracelet idea really does work well and is a visible reminder to you all the time of what you are focusing on. I highly recommend it.

Thank you and welcome.

Hi guys. I am going for it again. But this time, i will make smaller goals. 21 days is a rather large chunk of time. :-) This time my goals are thus:

1. to make a day with no complaining or negative statements
2. then to go for a week.
3. then I will reassess and see how it's going.

So I have been trying again for two days. Yesterday I moved my bracelet twice and this morning I moved it three times while talking on the phone about my family. :-O

We will see how I do tomorrow!

okay, today is a new day. I had two phone calls to family members and did not have to move my bracelet yet. a good start to the day.